Legislation that Gov. JB Pritzker signed into law this month bans physical punishment in private schools while reiterating a prohibition on the practice in public schools implemented 30 years ago.
Fucking hell, how is this still legal in 45 other states???
We have a long way to go
Right? I’m often shocked by what is still legal, like the number of states that allow an adult to marry a child.
It’s frustrating how long it takes the legal system to catch up. I experienced corporal punishment in public school. It’s a barbaric and weird practice.
Barbaric, weird, and ineffective. It doesn’t actually address what is causing the behavioral issue. It only punishes the kid for reacting normally to whatever stimuli they are experiencing. It’s especially frustrating when the fix would have been something simple like listening to the kid’s concerns or trying to have a conversation with them to address the root problem.
Gotta make sure the kids stay in line so you can get them to work. Don’t forget how many child labor laws have been loosened or removed by conservative states
I was unaware it was still legal until this.
I’m not a violent person. I’ve never been in a fight, let alone in jail for assault. If some school official did that shit to my daughter, it would be my first time for both.
Like everything else in this country.
The Cruelty is the Point
Cuz of little shits? You know how they say Karens are Karens cuz they never had consequences?
It is entirely possible to give children consequences without hitting them, you lack imagination if the only way you can envision giving a child consequences is to hit them.
There’s a difference between fear and respect. A child should NEVER fear the adult providing their care.
I would actually wager decent money that many of those little shits have been smacked around quite a lot. They learn to react how they were taught by demonstration. If mistakes are met with violence and aggression, then they learn to do the same to others.
I know a teacher who (unofficially) specialises in kids like those. They are hell on a new teacher. However, once they realise that they are not met with aggression, the veneer cracks. The young scared child realises that there is an adult they both cares and shouldn’t be feared. Very soon, just the idea that they might disappoint her is a far better motivator than any punishment could be.
Christian (conservative) values do not differentiate between fear and respect. Preachers harp on their equivalence at the pulpit on a regular basis. They are taught by their respected authority figures that to fear is to respect, and they reinforce those values in their children. It’s no wonder that authority figures in communities that hold these values are some of the most abusive.
They worship a being that kills everyone who doesn’t do what he tells them to and tortures people forever for not believing in him when he is actively hiding from them. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree in that religion.
Yes! This is the exact approach a good teacher takes with students who struggle with behavioral norms. There is a reason they are doing what they’re doing. They are reacting to adults the way they have been trained to react by other, shittier adults.
Once they trust you as a person who actually cares, they seem to become a whole new person. They are no longer scared to be vulnerable in front of you. It’s a sacred level of respect that teachers and/or mentor adults need to take very seriously.
I used to be the person who specializes in working with students who struggle with behavioral problems, and I can 100% assure you that exposure to violence from or among adults they are around is what led them to my classrom.
Why do you think, “if you do something I disapprove of, I will cause you pain,” is a good lesson to teach a child? When a child does that to another child, it’s called bullying.
Can you imagine being unable to communicate with a child without having the option of hitting them?
What’s wrong with physical punishment? My dad hit me and I turned out fine after just a decade of therapy.
Careful now, I got in trouble yesterday for not putting a
/son my sarcasm.The
after just a decade of therapy.
does wonders.
Being sarcastic about damn near everything works for me.
This is the way.
Not gonna lie, they had us in the first half.
The data available shows hitting kids does absolutely nothing to increase desired behaviors and in many cases is linked to increase in unwanted behaviors.
What do you mean hitting children teaches them that hitting is acceptable?
Next they will tell us that beating our wives for dinner being late is unacceptable!
Yeah I can 100% confirm this. My parents beat me when I was a kid.
I’ve learned to lie better. It’s not something I’m proud of.
Also explains a lot about American culture being what it is.
We all learned to convincingly lie our way out of “the wooden spoon”
My mom wasn’t strong enough to beat me and I quickly got bigger than my step-dad, but the psychological and mental abuse was there. And now she questions why it don’t let her hang out with my son alone and will abruptly leave with him when I get even a whiff of it.
Edit: forgot my point, but yes, I too became a master liar.
Hitting your kids just teaches them to self harm before problem solving
In schools? How is this even still an open question? I thought the debate had at least moved on to whether parents should be allowed to hurt their children, even in the US.
It was banned in public schools 30 years ago, this extends the ban to private schools
Not in every state.
Wait, it was allowed up until now?
Laws for physically harming children are super messed up. Children are legally nearly a slave class in this country. Their parents can 100% hit them (“within reason”) and it’s not child abuse. If a child retaliates at all, the child can actually have charges pressed against them by the parent.
I have heard numerous numerous stories of this exact situation: parent starts beating kid to discipline. it gets out of hand/kid won’t tolerate any more, so they call 911. Police show up, tell kid not only are they not arresting parent, but it is parent’s right to hit kid and discipline as they see fit (within the law). But if parent wants they can see about charges to kid if kid hit them or destroyed property.
This is also very similar as to what happens when women call for domestic violence - the police threaten to arrest the victim. Really really often. It’s almost like police are domestic abusers themselves.
Patriarchal violence…
But true, the US is one of the few countries that didn’t sign the children’s rights convention
Sources please. Never heard this. Always heard the cops do little, sometimes heard the system works. Have not heard cops tell kids they can be hit. (Edit: not doubting, just more in a wtf state.)
I mean, these are personal stories people have told me. That’s my source. I’ve spoken with thousands of people about their childhood trauma from tons of different backgrounds, including foster children.
Look at child abuse laws in your state. How are they defined? Anything short of that is completely allowed as discipline. If you give me your state (or name an example state if that’s too personal), I’ll post the laws.
If you’d like a resource to verify that, either call your local CPS office or non-emergency police. They are public servants. Ask them. They will tell you. It’s completely true. You can even put locks on your fridge and partially starve your kid as long as it doesn’t threaten their lives.
There’s still a handful of red states with it on the books as well. Yes, it’s everyone you think it is.
Technically in AZ you can rap the knuckles of a student with a ruler. You’ll still get fired for hitting a kid but I am pretty sure you are safe from a lawsuit.
Catholic schools still hit kids, iirc. Fairly certain it’s legal in private schools. (In AZ)
Heres my argument against hitting kids. Mississippi loves it, cant get enough of it. Every ailment of society is caused by kids not getting hit enough, and they wear their past of childhood violence as their biggest badge of honor. Hitting kids is how you get Mississippians.
"Mississippi ranks 39th in violent crime among all states and has the third-lowest violent crime rate in the South. "
Is it … working?
Violent crime in rural areas is dramatically underreported because cops don’t even take reports for domestic violence unless it requires an ambulance ride.
Mississippi is the poorest state in the US, with a poverty rate of 18.7%, followed by Louisiana as the second poorest state, with a poverty rate of 17.8%, and New Mexico, as the third poorest state in the US, at a poverty rate of 16.8%.
I don’t know, is it?
Or they ain’t so gud at countin’.
So I started actually looking up numbers and they indeed look good from certain sources, but I’m still giving them the side eye. For instance, the CDC shows Mississippi as having the #1 murder rate among the states in 2022.
Is the point of hitting children to reduce violent crime? I have a feeling there are better ways. Maybe we should work on getting rid of microplastics.
The thumbnail made me think this was about hitting children with busses, glad to see that’s already illegal
hitting children with busses, glad to see that’s already illegal
…for now.
I thought it was going to be a !fuck_cars@lemmy.ml post, until I reached the corporeal punishment part.
This is overreacting. I was beat as a child and I only need minimal therapy now.
Good job. Keep making conservatives actively confront their weird, inhumane, hateful bullshit on its face.
The gop is the party of hungry, beaten kids, sitting in understaffed schools, without schoolbooks, and distracted by construction noise from the publicly funded ten commandments statue going up near the school entrance between the active shooter drills. They sit there, nodding off and tired from working a double at the Tyson chichen slaughterhouse the night before.
And never forget, matt gaetz is sitting in the parking lot waiting to offer your kids a ride after school…
“would you like a ride to another state where it’s legal for me to do you?”
I was threatened with spanking once in the 9th grade.
I told the principal that it would take more than him to do it. He called my dad. Dad laughed in his face and told him to try me on. Then hung up.
I ended up with a week of ISS.
INB4: I know this sounds like a greentext. I’ve been telling this story for 20 fkin years.
Ahhh ISS. The truest of punishments. We had to help the janitors as part of ISS. Good luck catching up on missed schoolwork at home despite being in school all day, all while watching your friends have fun while you empty the next trash can.
What is ISS?
In School Suspension
We had “optional” corporal punishment.
You could choose swats with a paddle, or writing sentences over and over.
Most people took swats, but I just picked sentences and never did them. They’d double the amount a couple times and eventually stop asking for them.
But absolutely zero boys gave a shit about taking swats, it was no deterrent what so ever. Even knowing that there was an easy way out of the alternative, they’d just take swats and immediately forget it happened.
If anything it made behavior worse, because they could do whatever and then have a few seconds of discomfort later if and only if they were caught doing the bad thing.
But absolutely zero boys gave a shit about taking swats
Great time to remind everyone that the adult men who administer corporal punishment in schools do in fact take great pleasure in spanking teenage girls, and that girls opt-out of it more than boys because they know it will border on sexual assault.
Girls have a higher pain tolerance than boys. They just know the horrific implications of being alone in a room with an older man who has authority and permission to use violence.
Oh yeah, I think girls didn’t even have the option.
I dont know if the girls gym teacher just wouldn’t do it, or if none of them picked it, but none of them got swats.
But almost every gym class there was a line of boys waiting.
spanking teenage girls
This is a thing that happens?
Just ask current Auburn University head football coach Hugh Freeze.
Well that was disgusting.
It’s okay. He said he loves Jesus. We’re all fine!!!
At my school, the principal wasn’t allowed to paddle girls. Only boys.
I don’t know who made that rule but I can imagine why.
Girls have a higher pain tolerance than boys.
Sounds like the sort of thing a doctor says while explaining himself at an inquisition.
I’m seeing conflicting research on a cursory look.
Im sure you have sources right? Would you share them so we can all spread the word?
What do you need a source on? I am not that poster but I am a professional dominatrix and I will vouch that women, including transwomen, tend to have much higher pain tolerance than men. This is pretty well known in BDSM. Note that doesn’t mean women don’t feel the pain - they definitely do. They can just take a lot more pain and for a lot longer time than most men.
As to the other part - duh. It’s pretty obvious a teacher would use any excuse at physical touch as an opportunity to assault a student if he was so inclined. That’s how most predators operate, who get away with it - in the realm of plausible deniability. Predators are always looking for that wiggle room that gives them space to assault while simultaneously denying it. It’s why they prey on children in the first place.
I had heard from a guy from singapore that many young men had the idea around the canning that they could do that standing on their head kind of thing.
I don’t think that guy could take a Singapore caning and remain conscious, much less standing.
he talked like you could get one or two so it was like a macho thing. Oh you had 3, yeah I had 5 the other week no problem. I mean he was from singapore but may have been full of it I suppose but he did not come off that way and I knew him for a few years as he was in an academic program related to the lab I worked in.
Im sure you have sources right? Would you share them so we can all spread the word?
We’ll. Unless you want me to call up my middle school gym teacher I dont really know what you want me to do here champ…
But part of that is because you replied to a long comment asking for a source without mentioning what you were talking about.
Even then, looking at my entire comment I have absolutely zero idea what the fuck you’re asking for here.
Ah dammit. I replied to the wrong comment, sorry.
I was looking for the one that says men mostly love hitting girls for sexual reasons and girls have a much higher pain tolerance. Or something to that tune.
Here’s a crazy idea. Every time you wanna spank a kid, don’t. Spank that kid’s parents instead.
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It’s CHILD ABUSE!
To not allow TEACHERS to SPANK KIDS! I’m a Republican trying to Protect The Children!
But but but . . . hitting solves problems!
Just ask the guy who invented it . . . Hitler.
(I’ll show myself out)
So we’re getting a throwback to 1973 news articles… Wait there were still places outside of backwards ass Pender County, NC that did this shit?
The nuns. That’s what the article is saying.
Wow, I thought that was just a thing in cartoons. Huh, weird.
