Omnisexual - You’ve spent way more time thinking about your sexuality than getting laid
Demisexual - You’re way more queer than you’re ready to admit.
Sapiosexual - You’re a straight guy trying to impress the cute barista by seeming cool and intellectual. You are failing. Or you are a woman on a dating app trying to stop the endless flood of low-effort “sup” introductions. You are also failing.
Edit: Forgot one!
Heteroflexible - Willing to touch someone of the same gender sorta sexually for an audience if you think it means you’ll get a threesome later.
Honestly I think you’re giving them too much credit to say they’re doing it to avoid messages. It’s the same weird virtue signalling in both cases. “Not like the other girls,” etc.
It’s inventing a sexuality because you think it makes you sounds smart. Ooohh physical attraction is for losers, I’m only attracted to BRAINS. I can’t help but think these people would still shy away from an ugly genius
I’m pansexual, solidly a millennial, and started using the term nearly a decade and a half ago. Which was late to the game, since the term had been around for about a decade before that.
Under what does someone fall, who regularly forgets that sex exists, immune to flirting, needs external reminders/influence and effort to get in to the mood, cant wrap their head around attraction at all and completely hates the hand their dealt with?
Hey now! I may be autistic but I assure you I don’t ever forget sex exists and im horny like 90~95% of the time, but I am completely oblivious to flirting or interesting shown so that doesn’t get mitigated as much as I’d like
Probably because the identities we circle back to often have merit even if we don’t like it (the number of years I kept finding stupid arguments that I wasn’t trans…)
It sounds like you dislike this about yourself. You could check to see if there’s a medical issue causing extremely low libido. But fair warning, it may just result in you being horny and not finding anyone attractive.
Yes i kinda dislike it as it is a source of problems and just accepting it wouldn’t really solve any issues.
Sadly I’ve been trying to fix it for years, problems probably started or at least become noticable over a decade ago. By now i have already exhausted approved medical and physical means in trying to fix it, even started replacement therapy eventually as test levels were on the low end even despite doing as much as possible to boost those.
While it has had rather good outcome on overall physical and mental health, it hasn’t had any effect on libido.
Haven’t yet delved into balck market or anabolic steroids territory, yet and of course therapy is still left, but that’s rather expensive and social stigma is kinda strong on that subject. Especially for a guy who seemingly shouldn’t have any issues regarding it.
I may have gotten my terms mixed up, but I think demi is reactive sexuality, someone who gets turned on by their partner getting turned on. Requires a bond / connection. Not really interested without it.
I’m not super familiar with terms on that ace spectrum though. It’s somewhere on there.
Fair, reactively getting turned on kinda fits under outside influence part. Though cant tell anything about the bond/connection aspect, as thats way too vague and complicated for me.
I’m old and refused to claim a flag when they were presented.
I just tell people that “I’m independent, but occupied” or I ask them why they are so concerned about my penis, depending on the manner in which the question was asked.
Bisexual - You’re over 35
Pansexual - You’re under 35
Omnisexual - You’ve spent way more time thinking about your sexuality than getting laid
Demisexual - You’re way more queer than you’re ready to admit.
Sapiosexual - You’re a straight guy trying to impress the cute barista by seeming cool and intellectual. You are failing. Or you are a woman on a dating app trying to stop the endless flood of low-effort “sup” introductions. You are also failing.
Edit: Forgot one!
Heteroflexible - Willing to touch someone of the same gender sorta sexually for an audience if you think it means you’ll get a threesome later.
Flexisexual - you’ll take what you can get
Mexisexual if you like it spicy, corny, and fulfilling.
Also known as bi-greedy
Are they a regex?
.*sexualI’ve been Demisexual since I first watched Striptease as a teenager.
Huh, I’ve only ever heard women describe themselves as sapiosexual
Updated!
Honestly I think you’re giving them too much credit to say they’re doing it to avoid messages. It’s the same weird virtue signalling in both cases. “Not like the other girls,” etc.
It’s inventing a sexuality because you think it makes you sounds smart. Ooohh physical attraction is for losers, I’m only attracted to BRAINS. I can’t help but think these people would still shy away from an ugly genius
Ditto.
I like to call it “millenial” vs “gen z” pan/bisexuality
I’m pansexual, solidly a millennial, and started using the term nearly a decade and a half ago. Which was late to the game, since the term had been around for about a decade before that.
Swear I heard it late nineties
I thought pansexual was where you had the legs of a goat, played a little reed flute, and got off on being generally mischievous.
Demisexual polyamorous transgender lesbian here - what queerness am I denying myself ;-;
I’m not certain, but I wish you the best of luck in finding it. 😅
Under what does someone fall, who regularly forgets that sex exists, immune to flirting, needs external reminders/influence and effort to get in to the mood, cant wrap their head around attraction at all and completely hates the hand their dealt with?
Autistic.
Hey now! I may be autistic but I assure you I don’t ever forget sex exists and im horny like 90~95% of the time, but I am completely oblivious to flirting or interesting shown so that doesn’t get mitigated as much as I’d like
Well yeah, little bit of that too. That’s what probably makes it more confusing.
That would be asexual
Ace, or graysexual
Damnit, why i always circle back to that one.
Probably because the identities we circle back to often have merit even if we don’t like it (the number of years I kept finding stupid arguments that I wasn’t trans…)
It sounds like you dislike this about yourself. You could check to see if there’s a medical issue causing extremely low libido. But fair warning, it may just result in you being horny and not finding anyone attractive.
Yes i kinda dislike it as it is a source of problems and just accepting it wouldn’t really solve any issues.
Sadly I’ve been trying to fix it for years, problems probably started or at least become noticable over a decade ago. By now i have already exhausted approved medical and physical means in trying to fix it, even started replacement therapy eventually as test levels were on the low end even despite doing as much as possible to boost those.
While it has had rather good outcome on overall physical and mental health, it hasn’t had any effect on libido.
Haven’t yet delved into balck market or anabolic steroids territory, yet and of course therapy is still left, but that’s rather expensive and social stigma is kinda strong on that subject. Especially for a guy who seemingly shouldn’t have any issues regarding it.
Pretty sure that’s demi.
Others are saying grey or ace. Why demi then?
I may have gotten my terms mixed up, but I think demi is reactive sexuality, someone who gets turned on by their partner getting turned on. Requires a bond / connection. Not really interested without it.
I’m not super familiar with terms on that ace spectrum though. It’s somewhere on there.
Fair, reactively getting turned on kinda fits under outside influence part. Though cant tell anything about the bond/connection aspect, as thats way too vague and complicated for me.
It’s not reactive, it means that attraction is conditional on an emotional bond existing: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demisexuality
That is the best description of sapiosexual I have ever heard
I’m old and refused to claim a flag when they were presented.
I just tell people that “I’m independent, but occupied” or I ask them why they are so concerned about my penis, depending on the manner in which the question was asked.