• Etterra@discuss.online
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    4 hours ago

    That’s what I’d be telling my fiancee as a joke because I know she’s a chubby chaser (in her own words).

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    About 16% in men have a fat fetish compared to <1% of women. Also about 36% of women prefer a partner heavier than them. Also, 97% want a man who’s taller than them while about 2 % of women want a man smaller than them.

    Of all the people currently alive, about 7% are women aged 25-35. of those 1% like fat men, of those 2% want the man to be smaller. So you have 0.0014% of any given population who is female 25-35 and likes small fat men. About half of them are single, you you have 0.0007% of any population who will find you attractive.

    In a city of 400,000 people that’s 3

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    Hey sweatpants can do some work. Are they grey?

    Also 40s can be good-looking

    And “fat” is pretty subjective; people with average bodytypes can be very successful with confidence

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      !socks with sandals!<

      Whoa! A little warning before dropping something that hot in here!

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        Nope. Reminding you of thid absolutely golden Twitter moment

        The absolutely insane amount of cope the comment section starts spitting out is almost hilarious, implying that “women are lying” even.

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      Oh bless your heart.

      You realize that.a young woman who is even mildly attractive can pretty well have her pick of men her own age. She dont want no tubby dude 20 years older, wearing clothes from Costco and driving around in a Subaru crosstrek.

      Once us guys hit our 40s we just disappear into the hedges like homer, just part of the background.

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        She dont want no tubby dude 20 years older, wearing clothes from Costco and driving around in a Subaru crosstrek.

        I asked this guy for an engagement ring and he let me pick out the one I wanted!

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        Older dudes can absolutely get younger girls. However, they are mostly going to fall into 2 categories. Serious emotional/psychological issues. Or looking for a sugar daddy without as much stigma.

        If you are in great shape, have a good personality and a good job, then at 40 you can still pull girls in their 20s without to much trouble. If you let yourself go, and have nothing to show for your age then it will be a lot harder.

        The better question is why would you want to? What would you even talk to them about?

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          Can confirm. However, something happens in your mid 40s, I think the third growth stage of humans. In the space of about a year I went from beautiful 20 something women actively engaging with me, to suddenly something like primal visceral disgust instead.

          Sort of like how they reacted when I was in my 20s. Which is why I was completely unprepared for that tiny window of opportunity.

          Penis emerged unscathed.

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        Ironic that you complain about men disappearing in their 40s when this happens so pervasively to women it’s called Invisible Woman Syndrome.

        Aging out of societal relevance is hard for everyone. Let’s not pretend that this is a uniquely male thing, especially when women are pressured to conceal their aging to a far greater degree.

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          Honestly I don’t see them complaining nor are they pretending that it’s uniquely male. I just don’t see any words to support that. Do you think you might be reading a bit too much into it?

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    Me: “I’ll do my best but you know how hard it is to resist this.” Gestures at dad bod

    Wife: “Oh, I’m well aware.”

    Me: 😘

    Wife: 😏… 🍆👉👌

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      never underestimate the desire of some women for married man. I had a friend once tell me shw only dated married man because she knew he was good enough. No need to say the friendship didn’t last long

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        This is a real phenomenon. Men are more attractive when they’re already in a relationship.

        There are similar psychological effects that exist elsewhere. A job applicant is more attractive if they currently have a job. A scholarship application is more attractive if you list your existing scholarships. The effect is basically: someone else found you desirable, and therefore I must also.

        The effect is so strong that it encourages people to fake it to gain the benefits.

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          I must be ugly as sin. My wife and I have been married almost five years and I have yet to be in a situation where a woman is pursuing me and I can shout, “I don’t know you! You’re not my wife!” and run away.

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          Also the reason for the rock star phenomenon.

          A girl sees a guy with a girlfriend. Girl’s monkeybrain says “she thinks he’s a good bet, so he’s already been vetted, and he’s probably a good bet.”

          Now a girl sees a guy at a party with two girls flirting with him. Now two other girls think he’s a good bet. He must be a good bet.

          Now scale up. One guy is on stage playing the guitar. 3000 women are screaming that they love him. Our girl’s monkeybrain: “literally thousands of other girls are debasing themselves to be with him - he is the most desireable guy in the world. Quick, scream, get his attention! He’s your perfect soul mate, just make him notice you!”

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            That’s especially great with salary negotiations. When you’ve already got a stable job there is nothing to lose from aiming high.

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            I can attest, got out of a long term relationship a while back and have had absolutely no interest in getting involved with anyone to any degree, and I have been getting way more attention than I’m used to. Having no interest, however, just leads to me awkwardly smiling, a moment of silence while they’re waiting for reciprocation, and then me saying, “Thanks. Well, you have yourself a good one!” and scurrying away to play Red Dead 2.

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          Exactly. Some people like things they can’t have. The thrill, the risk.

          Same reason why rich people steal stuff for the thrill.

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    In a sense of understanding the wife’s perspective, proximity is just as important as the other major factors that affect how likely a relationship is to begin. There was a cool study of college students who lived in an apartment style building that showed you were most likely to begin a relationship with the person who had a door immediately next to yours. The only exception to that was for the person who had a door immediately next to the mailboxes. Proximity matters because it lets another person see you enough to form opinions based on a lot of interactions, and we all know someone who ‘shines’ despite their physical looks.

    Plot twist: new neighbor was wearing a shirt that read, “I <3 dad bods,” and was already flirting (asking for help moving boxes /eyeroll) with the guy in sweatpants.

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      asking for help moving boxes /eyeroll

      Just as an aside, I would do this regardless of my interest. If I’m moving and there’s someone watching, I’m going to try to enlist help. They can say no and I won’t be offended in any way, but I’ll give it a shot, because moving sucks and it’s faster with more hands. I won’t gush about how strong the movers are or anything, but I will offer them beer/pizza afterwards.

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      That study seems kinda backwards. I lived next to my future wife in student apartments, but that’s because we liked each other and intentionally chose the arrangement.

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        The apartments were randomly assigned. Do you know many freshmen who got to choose their dorms? Once I was a sophomore+, I did, but that first year in university-run student housing I didn’t get to pick.

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      If someone has to tell their spouse not to break their martial vows, or even feels like they have to say it, that couple should go to therapy.

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    We usually say to each other…don’t bring home nasty STDs. Even though we both know…way to busy to fuck someone else.