• blargh513@sh.itjust.works
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    1 day ago

    Oh bless your heart.

    You realize that.a young woman who is even mildly attractive can pretty well have her pick of men her own age. She dont want no tubby dude 20 years older, wearing clothes from Costco and driving around in a Subaru crosstrek.

    Once us guys hit our 40s we just disappear into the hedges like homer, just part of the background.

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      1 day ago

      Older dudes can absolutely get younger girls. However, they are mostly going to fall into 2 categories. Serious emotional/psychological issues. Or looking for a sugar daddy without as much stigma.

      If you are in great shape, have a good personality and a good job, then at 40 you can still pull girls in their 20s without to much trouble. If you let yourself go, and have nothing to show for your age then it will be a lot harder.

      The better question is why would you want to? What would you even talk to them about?

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        Can confirm. However, something happens in your mid 40s, I think the third growth stage of humans. In the space of about a year I went from beautiful 20 something women actively engaging with me, to suddenly something like primal visceral disgust instead.

        Sort of like how they reacted when I was in my 20s. Which is why I was completely unprepared for that tiny window of opportunity.

        Penis emerged unscathed.

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      22 hours ago

      She dont want no tubby dude 20 years older, wearing clothes from Costco and driving around in a Subaru crosstrek.

      I asked this guy for an engagement ring and he let me pick out the one I wanted!

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      Ironic that you complain about men disappearing in their 40s when this happens so pervasively to women it’s called Invisible Woman Syndrome.

      Aging out of societal relevance is hard for everyone. Let’s not pretend that this is a uniquely male thing, especially when women are pressured to conceal their aging to a far greater degree.

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        21 hours ago

        Honestly I don’t see them complaining nor are they pretending that it’s uniquely male. I just don’t see any words to support that. Do you think you might be reading a bit too much into it?

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          7 hours ago

          Nope. Just reading with basic comprehension:

          Once us guys hit our 40s we just disappear into the hedges like homer, just part of the background.

          The context of which was that women don’t experience this because OP was making the claim that young women can ‘have their pick of men’ when ever they want.

      • Trainguyrom@reddthat.com
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        13 hours ago

        I switched from the Sam’s Club 30 minutes away because I was tired of getting Walmart grade crap to a Costco 50 minutes away. Prices are a little higher, quality seems not quite as much higher and when we do the math, the savings over just going to Target or whatever aren’t always there