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Go create new traumas, those old ones are stale.
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Sounds like you’re living just like the rest of us friend :) Always good remembering that the person who thinks of your awkward moments the most is yourself, and just not dwell on them too long
Have yourself a lovely day!
Introverts make friends by letting an extrovert adopt them.
Can confirm, my cousin adopted me and introduced me to their friends.
reminder to my fellow extraverts to treat their introvert extra well today, they might need it
Yea. My strat is to be friends with the extrovert and then identify the other introverts who’re also friends with them and go be by ourselves together. I then return the favor by encouraging the introverts I’m now friends with to go to his outings.
This is so true! I have many other friends now because my best friend is a textbook example of an extrovert. He just knows people anywhere we go or at least someone knows him.
LMAO what is this from? It looks hilarious!
It’s from the movie Animal House. :) One of my favorite scenes ever (because who hasn’t been that kid? lol).
I’m still waiting for this to happen…
Make sure your windows are open wide enough to allow a person to jump through.
Worked for me! Roommate was throwing a party and my now-wife got dragged along to it by her friend
Same, but it was my cousin doing the dragging.
Same, but it was my cousin… doing the dragging.
Y’all got set up.
It’s really hard to meet people because all the people I want to know are hiding from humanity.
A buddy of mine got his first girlfriend in college after a family friend noticed that his single niece also liked manga and anime and introduced the two. I was very jealous of his attractive, nerdy girlfriend-turned-wife for several years until I finally got on a dating site and found love for myself.
My family friends do not know any other nerdy weebs…
yes, because putting yourself out there just gets you yanked around by assholes – ask me how I know.
Either Mr. Right will fall out of the great blue sky directly into my lap, or I’ll die alone. But I frankly no longer have the will to really put effort towards that, anymore; and I can’t fathom criticizing anyone else for deciding the same. Hell truly is other people.
how do you know
not having a single person express genuine attraction and interest in me, in my life + the one time I thought I had that interest, after a few months, they dumped me on Christmas morning via text and said they essentially meant nothing of what they said before. Every single person before or since has either forgotten I exist or ghosted me outright within days or weeks of starting talking to them, even when they initiate. I suppose the novelty just wears off. Couple other highlights include the guy who used me as his therapist for a couple months until he forgot I existed when he got on antidepressants, and the guy who was over-the-top affectionate for weeks until apparently a switch flipped in his head and he became distant and quiet until ghosting me. And many more that I won’t bore you with.
been slamming my head against that wall for 7+ years with absolutely no success, and I chose to stop trying for my own sanity. Sometimes you have to accept that some of the things you want out of life, are either simply not yours to have, or not in your control to obtain – it’s that or I keep raking myself over the coals trying to figure out what I don’t have that others want, and I’ve done that for long enough.
and my story is just one of many, many people experiencing the hell that is other people.
As a textbook people-pleaser, yeah it’s exhausting being the fun new toy until i realize they are using me as a bang-maid…
That point in life when “Haha, you’re so funny.” becomes an insult.
“You’re just so fun and quirky!”
Until the novelty wears off and they realize that the fun quirks are just a filter I have to put on all the time so my dad’s personality doesn’t shine through.
I love it’s always sunny in Philadelphia
Did you bang my hwhore wife!?
Because of the implication.
Sometimes you have to accept that some of the things you want out of life, are either simply not yours to have, or not in your control to obtain
Couldn’t have said it netter myself.
Just do stuff that other nice people do. Volunteer work is pretty good to meet decent people.
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You don’t have to do it for everything. There’s lots of lower risk, rewarding activities than trying to find someone decent to date. I’m way less depressed since I got over the idea that I needed to be in a relationship to be happy. I have friends I hang out with. I have hobbies that interest me. Sure I’d like to have sex more but being in a relationship is no guarantee of that either.
I thought my problem was not going outside, but I recently saw a post about how most people meet online now.
So it turns out I just suck. That’s helpful to know
Tbf that is helpful info
I remember being surprised to realize/remember that there are (were?) totally kids that will knock on a new neighbor’s door to ask their parents if they could come out to meet them and play
Imagine… taking action to put yourself out there and meet friends. That’s kinda wild
Careful about where the posts come from-- Tinder et. al. have a vested interest in spreading the notion that the normal thing to do is to meet online, and so they publish surveys and press releases that reinforce that idea. Editorialists want a scoop about how the Digital Age is changing everything and the Youths Today are completely subverting existing norms.
Some people meet online, yeah, and good for them. But still, going outside and having interactions with real people is still the primary way to form relationships, and that’s helpful in dating, career, hobbies, and wellbeing in general.
You don’t just suck. Online dating is still hard, and everything is even harder when you don’t have a solid foundation of other relationships in your life.
I saw The Secret in high school and I’ve just been following its advice of wishing really hard. 🤷🏻♂️
Self-induced schizophrenia called “tulpa” is certainly one approach
how else would i meet commander will riker, if not a transporter accident?
Quantum physics proves the chance of this happening isn’t 0. Maybe if they wait long enough?
That post’s gotta chill with the personal attacks, geez.
Ew, a stranger appearing uninvited in my house?
No, they can teleport to the driveway like a normal person, thankyouverymuch.
Pls text before you teleport.
/tpa sundray
I mean, we are not 100% unfindable, we comment here on Lemmy! Normalize finding love through Lemmy (/jk).
People should normalize finding love through online communities.
Does having a cat count as being in a relationship? Because I feel like it should. I used to have a tuxedo cat who I actually got married to all the time. I couldn’t help it, he was all dapper.
Man I feel personally attacked
