• mostdubious@lemmy.world
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    7 hours ago

    the great touring jam bands provided a wonderful environment to meet new people in back in the 90’s. the parking lots of grateful dead and phish concerts were chock full of society’s misfits, many of them well-read and witty (some of them not-so-much). It was not introverted at all - there were so many outgoing, lively, and fun people.

    i think many of you are more outgoing than you give yourself credit for. you just live in a world where you don’t want to mingle with the inhabitants, and i think that might even reflect a skewed view of the outside world. i’m pretty far left and i still have fun in bars in little ranch towns in the western states. most of those people are more fun than your average morose, urban-dwelling shoe gazer.

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      1 hour ago

      The main issue for a lot of people is a lack of good third places.

      Combine less and less free time outside of work, with higher nationwide costs affecting access to third places that you would otherwise congregate with people in, (i.e. cafes, bars, clubs, etc) and you get people who, while probably somewhat outgoing, are unable to actually be outgoing, since there’s not a good place to express that in.

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    8 hours ago

    I mean, we are not 100% unfindable, we comment here on Lemmy! Normalize finding love through Lemmy (/jk).

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      2 hours ago

      Does having a cat count as being in a relationship? Because I feel like it should. I used to have a tuxedo cat who I actually got married to all the time. I couldn’t help it, he was all dapper.

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    11 hours ago

    It’s really hard to meet people because all the people I want to know are hiding from humanity.

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    11 hours ago

    teleports behind you Nothing personal, kid… But would you like to be the love of my life?

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      9 hours ago

      (Me trying to catch up all the parallel universes my SO is ahead of me … and barely holding back tears) Special technique: blast of emotional damage miasma that inflicts 1000 years worth of existential dead per second purely by proximity to me!

      But I’m glad you have moral standards & appropriately chose an empty place where we can have our duel.

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    10 hours ago

    Sounds like an invasion of my privacy! I could be doing art at that moment, or some kind of lore deep dive. How rude to just teleport in like that!

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      8 hours ago

      I noticed you were reading through the Babylon 5/Star Trek crossover fan-wiki and I find that very attractive…

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    12 hours ago

    [off topic?]

    Wonderfully cheesy 1970s movie “Logan’s Run” had a deal like that. Instead of just swiping on an image, people teleported to your house. If you liked each other you’d step off the platform…

    [The movie has a brief appearance by Farrah Fawcett, which gives it high 1970s nostalgia appeal]

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    1 day ago

    Worked for me! Roommate was throwing a party and my now-wife got dragged along to it by her friend

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    1 day ago

    That post’s gotta chill with the personal attacks, geez.