What if you don’t go to anyone for advice…
Sometimes you should listen to others even if you down want to hear the anwser.
Get better friends??
I mean someone who doesn’t know how to cook can still taste when something is wrong. They just can’t differentiate between a fixable mistake and a disaster.
I think we’re closer to asking someone who can’t taste to judge food sometimes.
That’s not asking for advice though. That would be “how do I improve the taste?”
Crop the two useless replies
You’re not my mom!
but, but… I don’t know you and wouldn’t go to you for advice!
“I wouldn’t take your advice so I won’t take your shit”
People dont live this way? If an individual doesnt prove themselves knowledgable and virtuous when asking for help or advice why the hell would I listen to their critiques?
This one really makes me think.
Once again it’s the premise that’s fucked up and not the conclusion: both advice and criticism aren’t something one should take only when one chooses to, and never without thorough inspection.
And now I imagine the sort of person that walks through life actively rejecting advice and criticism except from a few selected peers. Yep, I think I cracked this one.
The point is that you need to figure out which advice and criticism is useful. You shouldn’t dismiss everything but you shouldn’t accept everything either.
In my interpretation, this is not about “I know better than everyone else” but about “That person has hurt me so much in the past. Maybe I should not take their criticism to heart anymore.”
This one’s been getting thrown around for a long time now and it’s not exactly my favorite approach to addressing criticism.
Who are those people by whom you wish to be admired? Are they not these about whom you are in the habit of saying that they are mad?
