it took me a while to realize that lots of people try to destabilize the relationships of their neighbors in a subconscious attempt to advance themselves that way, because they’re removing competition from the game.
“Age gap” by itself isn’t an automatic red flag, and sometimes it’s fine. And if everyone is consenting adults it absolutely isn’t “pedophilia”. But I will want to know more context and have zero problems judging someone in that situation.
Let’s not pretend there’s not a lot of “age gap” relationships where the older party isn’t at minimum incredibly immature. And I’m talking about people 40+ dating people barely out of their teens.
Because I have eyes, ears, and I’m not an idiot? Because I know the difference between “that’s a little different but I don’t see a huge problem” and “Fucking hell, that’s not OK”.
Again: I’ve seen “age gap” relationships that were fine. I’ve also seen them where it was some incredibly fucked up dynamics being acted out.
Like the “conservative” that wants a “trad wife” who’s been shamed into staying submissive to an asshole.
Or the person that goes after vulnerable people because they’re abusive and want someone they know they can abuse.
Or like the person that goes after much younger partners because they’re manipulative, controlling, and have better luck with someone who lacks the life experience to see through their bullshit.
It’s almost like in all of those scenarios there’s flags that indicate there could (again, because apparently reading is hard: not “is” – could) be a problem.
Went to my wife’s friend’s (Filipina) bd party last year; she was turning 30. Yay! Got to talking to an old guy who turned out to be super cool. Yay! That was her husband and he was about to turn 70. (Lots of turning in this story - what an odd turn.)
Age gaps are fine.
The only people that don’t like them and pego jacket others are gross sub humans that nobody wants.
Plenty of idiots in Reddit approved relationships that cheat, abuse each other, are toxic, etc.
If a 38 year old dude and his 20 year old Filipina can make it work, then it works.
Go away ugly person with opinions seasoned with jealousy.
I am 33 dating a Filipina who is 24. She is the love of my life!
33 / 2 = 16.5
16.5 + 7 = 23.5
23.5 < 24
You’re fine.
So true
And so true.
Some redditors for whatever reason also go on reddit just to try and get strangers to break up (r/relationshipadvice r/AITA)
it took me a while to realize that lots of people try to destabilize the relationships of their neighbors in a subconscious attempt to advance themselves that way, because they’re removing competition from the game.
“He went out with his friends on a Friday night like you both agreed he would? Massive red flag, get a lawyer.”
“Age gap” by itself isn’t an automatic red flag, and sometimes it’s fine. And if everyone is consenting adults it absolutely isn’t “pedophilia”. But I will want to know more context and have zero problems judging someone in that situation.
Let’s not pretend there’s not a lot of “age gap” relationships where the older party isn’t at minimum incredibly immature. And I’m talking about people 40+ dating people barely out of their teens.
Why do you feel entitled to know more about a strangers relationship?
This is the type of weird shit that makes Westerners look insane to the rest of the world.
If a person’s relationship is fine by the law and their family, then mind your own business.
Because I have eyes, ears, and I’m not an idiot? Because I know the difference between “that’s a little different but I don’t see a huge problem” and “Fucking hell, that’s not OK”.
Again: I’ve seen “age gap” relationships that were fine. I’ve also seen them where it was some incredibly fucked up dynamics being acted out.
“I’ve seen “age gap” relationships that were fine. I’ve also seen them where it was some incredibly fucked up dynamics being acted out.”
So like any relationship
Yes, like any other relationship.
Like the “conservative” that wants a “trad wife” who’s been shamed into staying submissive to an asshole.
Or the person that goes after vulnerable people because they’re abusive and want someone they know they can abuse.
Or like the person that goes after much younger partners because they’re manipulative, controlling, and have better luck with someone who lacks the life experience to see through their bullshit.
It’s almost like in all of those scenarios there’s flags that indicate there could (again, because apparently reading is hard: not “is” – could) be a problem.
Went to my wife’s friend’s (Filipina) bd party last year; she was turning 30. Yay! Got to talking to an old guy who turned out to be super cool. Yay! That was her husband and he was about to turn 70. (Lots of turning in this story - what an odd turn.)
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