I had two job interviews today. If I get either one of them it’d be better pay for better hours than the job I have now.
I fucking crushed both interviews, and y’know what?
Being heartbroken over a girl that threw me away is fucking stupid I’m confident in my odds of getting either job and I’m just going to keep winning I’ve been back on my head meds, back on my hormones I’m just gonna keep getting myself right and she’s gonna see that I’m a great woman and a catch while she just keeps bedrotting and she’s gonna see she fucked up letting me go
I’ve worked so hard on getting back to being myself since we moved to this shit hole town in April and all she’s done is bedrot and I’m not letting it hold me back anymore
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Could we avoid the misogyny please?
Paragraph #2 in the link below is useful reading. We’re all going to have different opinions on the reclamation of slurs, and that’s okay, but it’s important to remember that gatekeeping this specific word has historically been a form of transmisogyny, so for some, telling us we shouldn’t use the word may touch a nerve, because we face a disproportionate burden to avoid the word and greater social consequences for using it than a cis woman would in the same context. Likewise, I’m sorry this community touched a nerve for you by using it here.
I’m really glad your transfem community exists here for people who want to avoid that word, but not everyone will want to, and it’s good that this community exists as well for that reason. No one did anything wrong; we just all have different comfort zones. Maybe both perspectives can exist harmoniously by having separate spaces with discrete rules for those who need them?
https://redlib.catsarch.com/r/CuratedTumblr/comments/1b0s1tk/transmisogyny/
IMO it hits different when it comes from another woman.
That being said insulting your ex because they broke up with you, and for no other reason, DOES seem in bad taste.
We fundamentally disagree, misogyny is misogyny regardless of the gender of the person doing it.
Edit: All it does is prop up bigotry and patriarchy, and says it’s okay for women to be misogynistic (when used negatively) for some reason?
We dunno, none have ever explained it in a way we can agree with, just “it’s okay because it’s a woman doing it.” which, why?
You’re not wrong, and like I said the way it was used was gross.
That being said I also think there is room for me to refer to my friends and myself as bad bitches or whatever.
Isn’t that use (bad bitches) positive though?
Yeah, and honestly the more I re-read the post the more I agree with ya.
I have called myself a dumb bitch, or others a silly bitch. But mostly in the same way others would use fuck.
This post doesn’t piss me off as much as a man doing it but it still has the ick.
I’m not the biggest fan of the word myself, but I don’t personally feel that solely use of the term itself by a woman constitutes a violation of the rules against bigotry. It’s pretty common parlance and while again I do not particularly like it, and even I personally feel it is too connected with gender based violence against women, I think it is enough of a grey area to be comfortably outside any kind of rule breaking. Add in the fact that OP is herself a woman and, yeah.
I’m thinking more on this, but for now am leaving this up as is.
Add in the fact that OP is herself a woman and, yeah.
We don’t really see how this makes it okay. Isn’t it just propping up patriarchy through misogyny but somehow pretending it is okay because it’s a woman doing it? We completely understand if it’s reclaimed positively, but negatively isn’t reclaiming, it’s just continuing the violence, surely?
I do not necessarily feel that it’s use in this context is rule breaking. If it was being used to denigrate women as a whole, and not to express some anger at one woman in particular, that would be different.
Her status as a woman herself does not make the action harmless, just less harmful owing to her own lack of power in the patriarchal power structure.
denigrate women as a whole, and not to express some anger at one woman in particular, that would be different.
What we’re getting from this is, uhh, beings can be mysoginstic against those whom we hate?
Brown beings using slurs against brown beings that they hate?
We don’t fight fire with fire, all the time.
The word is interesting. It’s in a grey area, a word used to degrade, but also to empower. Appie here in the 3rd world, the b-word is a slur. We’ve seen men using it against each other, guess what? It’s an insult. For example:
CW: Mysoginy
“Stop being a little bitch!” Where “bitch” means an annoying, most often, woman.
So there’s a whole word to describe annoying women, and it’s used most of the time to discrimniate against them. If that doesn’t make the word mysognistic, then wow, we would be very horrified to interact with any with the thought that we can be bigoted against each other.
Very rarely do we see beings using the “word” for themselve
and again, this isn’t an issue of OP calling themselves that word, but it’s directed at another woman, which seems to carry the negative meaning.
Just equate this to another slur.
CW: Queerphobic Slur
Is it okay to call those whom we hate sissies, faggots, and what not? NO. We used these slurs as examples, because they are used against us
CW: Mysoginy
OP is using this double-edged word, to degrade OP’s ex.
That’s the negative usage of the word. Degradation.
Tl;dr: We are beings of color, it means our skin is not “the default white”. And we would never, use a slur/(offensive word used against us) against those whom we hate. Nor have we seen them do that to us.
brownphonbia, racism
We have never called or been called “camelrider” or whatever the fuck they insult beings in Arab countries these days.
Please read our pronouns before addressing us
Lmfao be so fr
wut? Bitch is a misogynistic word, why are you using it?
Please get a life
Did you have a point to make or are you just going to reply in thought terminating clichés?
Do you actually have something productive to say or do you just like to tone police women on the Internet
[Sarcasm] Sorry we, women adjacent beings, don’t want to see misogyny in spaces supposedly for us.
So, just to be clear, we live in a fascist state. Women, queer folks, and poc are having more and more rights stripped away every day. Coupled with that, a random trans woman in a two year relationship moved to an extremely transphobic state where every day comes with risk with her partner who proceeded to dump her over text and leave her with no money and no support group. But oh my god I said bitch how could I. Do you hear how stupid you sound. Please put this energy to something that actually matters.
Edit: and, to add, you could have seen the post and moved on. Instead you decided to come into this thread to admonish me, a random Internet stranger. You are not the arbiter of my grief. Get over yourself and move on.
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Take it from someone who’s lived through it: Living well is the best revenge.
Focus on yourself girl!
Hope you’re gonna crush this! And get back on your feet. :3as they say: I get knocked down, but I get up again, youre never gonna keep me down
keep at it girl be your best self :)
For someone also job hunting wishing you the best and hope you get the pay you want.
You’ve got this!
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I’m not unemployed, just applying for better jobs
Hell yea, fuck her. You’re way too cool to let someone else drag you down!
