• Jackusflackus@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    Sounds like some seriously bad parenting. How do you not force your kid to get a job and pay for all their shit until 38. He doesn’t stand a chance being kicked out. Need to teach how to support yourself

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      3 days ago

      I’d assume that he has some kind of chronic illness (or several). If he didn’t at the start, he definitely developed one living like that.

    • Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      While the time from child to mid twenties is definitely the parent’s fault, after that point you can try every trick in the book it won’t achieve a thing. Once someone masters weaponized incompetence they basically need a life or death wake-up call to do anything about it, and even then they might still not learn anything.

      No one’s literally impossible to reform, but many people cross a point that requires a practically impossible amount of investment to reform.

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      3 days ago

      It’s bad parenting alright. But I don’t believe that they’ve never made an effort before. More likely the guy has resisted any attempt to get him to be independent.