I went on a date with a guy in college and he talked about how big various anime girls tits were the entire time. Insta-ghost. Idk if that was a fixable personality trait but it wasn’t my responsibility anyway.
I wonder if he’ll have a moment of clarity in a decade or so about how weird that was?
Nah, he’ll blame it all on wokism.
I’m sad to say that I wouldn’t bet on it…
Not quite as bad, but I went on a date with someone that just explained video games I hadn’t played. He would ask about a video game and if I hadn’t played it he’d speak about it uninterrupted for 10-20 minutes explaining the levels. Not even interesting lore or anything. It would be like listening to someone explain a speedrun, but their speedrun is just playing the game normally. I like video games and play with my partners and friends, and I even watch videos about video games I haven’t played and I could only stand 3 of these rounds before ending the date. He was completely uninterested in talking about anything else and didn’t even want to talk about games I had actually played. Only games I knew nothing about. Totally bizarre. It felt like a prank. Would make a great greentext from his perspective though.
You literally describe my fear with my 10 y/o. He is a talker. He’s pretty quick witted and can even make jokes that adults can appreciate. But hell if he can’t just talk at you.
We are slowly engaging it. I hope he becomes an interesting, empathetic young adult who gives space and shows real interest in others. I’ll do my best, but I didn’t get better at this till my late twenties.
It’s good parenting to be aware of that sort of thing, but as you seem to guess I wouldn’t worry too much. Kids are kind of just like that. I have a 13 yr old in my life right now and she is pretty similar, so I think it’s healthy. The last thing we want to do as adults is make them feel small or like their thoughts and interests don’t matter.
For what it’s worth I don’t mind talkers, it really is just about place/time/topic. I’m sure he’ll make it through. I hear encouraging questions about others helps, “thank you for asking”/“what a great question” etc. but I don’t know if it really helps so much as is something we do in the interim to feel like we’re helping while they just mature in the background. Seems like you’re on top of it though. Best of luck to you both!
Man that reminds me a lot of the game, oh I forget the name of it, but it had some vowels in the name, where you go in thinking the point is to kick a lot of butts and towers but it turns out the real point of the game is getting your ass kicked and having your team yell at you.
Like this one time I was playing and wanted to try this annoying character that bugged the hell out of me when others played him. Can’t remember the name but he’d go like “ahhhhh” and then you’d be slow and couldn’t use abilities even if you ran away and the ground would do this explody thing. Doesn’t that sound soooo annoying? Anyways, I decided to try playing as this guy but I kept just dying instead of annoying the other team.
I see you want to say something but shut up for a bit, I’m not done yet.
So then I decided to try jungling. No, not juggling, I mean fighting the guys in the jungle. That way, I don’t keep giving gold and xp to the other team when I repeatedly die, except for a few times when I accidentally thought their base was the jungle.
Anyways, we should play some games after we have sex at the end of the date. If you brought a gaming laptop, at least. If not, you can watch me play or give me a bj while I play or something so it’s fun for you, too.
The cringe is so real. I had a guy bring his gaming laptop to a third date at my place. I was super into him and we went to my bedroom and he just set up his laptop. I could not pull him away from showing me his cool single player gaming collection. It’s my fault because I kept going out with guys I met at cons. After the third time you think I’d learn my lesson but I didn’t stop until poly became more pervasive and I ended up on dates with people who just forgot to mention that. I don’t mind poly but you should be upfront about it. So glad I don’t have to date anymore. It’s an absolute disaster out there. Best of luck to everyone still doing it.
I had a coworker which just talked about Destiny just like you said. It was the main thing you’d hear from him, and he would just talk about the plays he did. I don’t even play Destiny… People just started avoid talking to him
OH this instantly reminded me of some people, of which one person who’s small talk of choice before and after lectures was what a turn on blood letting was, in that class there was also a chick who went to someones house in the forest to see the kitten they just got. without knowing thier name because they just met them (is it meet if you know 0% about someone except they live in the forest and have a cat at the end of “meeting” them)…it is almost surprising they have not been assaulted more.
I mean, girls have boobs, so they must like to talk about them, right? Right???
Some of them do, but best not to assume so!
I went on a date with a guy in college and he talked about how big various anime girls tits were the entire time.
Based.
This reminded me of this date I went on with a girl in college. I don’t remember exactly what she said, but she talked about how she killed her pet hamster for a while when she was younger. I don’t remember how, but it wasn’t an accident IIRC. It’s fair to say there wasn’t a second date. Lol.
Simplest explanation is he wanted you to leave him alone
He talked to me and asked me out.
I smiled at a girl in college once. A day later she infodumped everything she knew about Capgras syndrome on me out of the blue. 11/10 would recommend.
…and then you got replaced by a lizard person and she never spoke to you again?
How did you know? 🤣
Also, when people say meet others at college they don’t mean in the classes, especially not in the lecture halls lol. They mean in the social events…
I was pretty shy when I started college and have always disliked social events. I skipped a few years in highschool so I was young when I started. Combined with working 30+ hours a week to pay for college and my social life was pretty dead.
My junior/senior year I decided to sit next to the most beautiful woman in class on day one. I would then smile, say hello, and leave them alone. Then smile, say goodbye at the end of class and leave.
A few weeks of this and most of them started talking to me a bit before or after class. By mid-terms I was friendly with a few beautiful women and had a couple dates. The last quarter of my senior year, I sat down next to my now wife.
I did get called out by my wife on knowing so many beautiful women when we were dating. She was a bit annoyed but I did sit down next to her after all.
Wholesome ending.
Though, I am a bit confused by
I skipped a few years in highschool
Did your high school have more than 4 years? When I think of “a few,” I think “at least 3,” but skipping 3 out of 4 years doesn’t sound right.
2.5 years. So is it a couple or a few? I started college when I turned 16.
I ended up being a burned out after my 2nd year in college and I turned 18. I had also amassed some savings by working so much. So I bought a ticket to Europe and bummed around for a couple years. When I started back up I was the same age as everyone else.
My friend group was always on the nerdier side in high school. One thing I’m really glad we did come senior year was we’d play poker, and the loser, if single, would be have to go and ask a random gal out on a date (with the rest of the group trying-yet-failing to act casual hanging out nearby to make sure it happened lol)
It’s liberating to know that, as long as you’re not being a creep, you can just talk to someone you think is cute and ask them out. It was especially nice to know back in the high school days lol.
Generally, yes, but if you’re a pleasant person to be around you can easily get things going from lectures as well. You just need to strike up a conversation like a normal person and be friendly. The problem most of these people have is they treat women like something to be won, when instead they’re just people.
Wish I was normal. I am WAY too socially awkward to start a conversation. Usually I need at least a couple of hours to warm up to somebody.
I feel I get that way when I’m out of practice for too long. These days, I just need a bit of coffee and I’m usually good to go with some light small talk lol.
How do you warm up to someone without having a conversation?
Stare them straight in the eye while hip thrusting
Occupy the same space and have group conversations instead of one-on-ones I guess.
Like, invite people to join your group instead of going out just with you, it’s less threatening and less of a “thing”.
That’s what I meant though. It shouldn’t be “a thing.” It’s just a conversation. Group conversations are still conversations. You just have to see them as people, not as a goal. Once you get to know them and you find out of you actually like them, as a person, then you can more easily persue them without seeming weird.
Yeah, I guess we are thinking the same thing.
I met the love of my life at a literal exam.
I think the trick to it is that you shouldn’t force any situations like this to have any sort of outcome, just keep yourself open to new people. Like set up situations where you can meet new people, and have your attitude be “I’d like to get to know you, so we can either be friends, more than friends or never meet again if that’s how it shakes out”, and just keeping it low stakes. And then just try to get into those situations as much as you can.
Agreed, I made lifelong friends in my college anime club.
Don’t they? The culture might be different in different schools or different generations, but I’ve made quite a few friends just by chatting with people in the lecture halls before class.
Join a club. There’s fliers everywhere.
Yeah clubs/societies are the places to meet people. No one wants so socialise in class.
Exactly. I just want to get in, get out, and not be late to the next one. I’m paying to listen to the idiot in the front, I’m going to get my money’s worth.
Helps if you don’t start the conversation with " Hello m’lady."
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what is THY interest m’lady.
in my first three years of college i spoke to maybe ten students, pretty much all of them because we were assigned a team project together. only one guy talked to me because we were sitting next to each other at the same class and i started a few short-lived conversations with whoever was next to me before exams if the teacher was taking too long to come.
besides that, many people (almost everyone it seems) came into the college as friend groups from high school. they spoke to each other, but you’re not within that friend group and it feels awkward to butt in a conversation where everyone’s already highschool friends and you’re a stranger.
Key is to live on campus.
I didn’t live on campus but I was in a fraternity, was in the tennis club and I worked as a guide for exchange students. There were plenty of opportunities to meet new people and date.
Yep. Dorm life you’re stuck meeting people whether you like it or not. I hated our dorms, but I had a lot of fun with the roomies and others I met in the dorms.
In my experience, even then it’s still difficult to talk to people.
ya if you want to meet people, join a club.
I only ever speak to people I don’t already know in the same class when there’s class assignments that requires us to.
i don’t think we had anything like clubs. there was no campus as they have in america, just a college and a student dorm that was shared with other faculties.
there were some club-like activities like tabletop game evenings every now and then but i always had classes during those and couldn’t try them out.
In college, made my own clubs and flyered it around.
One club was the cartoons and cereal club, where people brought cereal and we’d watch 90s cartoons for an hour. Another club was the Bob Ross appreciation club, which was just an excuse to drink wine and paint.
Be weird. You’d be surprised by the people you attract. And it was kind of awesome to go around bragging to people that I got 30 college kids to watch classic Xmen and eat Applejack’s.
and it was pretty easy to fish out people that arnt part of the class, and are just sitting in it to scope out the place, there were plently of “vagrant” that pretended to be students and were just some creeps like the “anon” and homeless people.(this was a public university), the cray cray people are in the libraries.
Wow, college has turned rough, to many anxieties, I had fun in college, met new ppl, met my college gf of 3 years no fraternity needed not even socialmedia…and I’m just 44, already someone is calling anon a creep without any prior knowledge of the person or any context, it’s that easy now to to judge people and call anyone a creep …and they are wondering why are ppl lonely, single and anxious
A boomer told me that he observes younger generations as being stand off-ish. I don’t disagree. I suppose having grown up with “stranger danger” message being drilled into us made us that way. I don’t want to start a generation fight and blame boomers, but who are the parents of millenials who taught us the message that made us hypervigilant? The stranger danger message has merit, but if older generations are complaining why we behave that way, you reap what you sow as the saying goes.
Another consideration is that if Anon is Gen Z, it is very likely that his peers grew up with constant attention to online and digital presence, which makes them socially awkward. It didn’t help either that much of Gen Z spent two years cooped up in their own homes during the pandemic. It does not take a genius to figure out what those two phenomena does to an entire generation.
Well, posting green-texts is a fair indicator IMO (I mean it’s fake but let’s pretend).
Would this attract someone just like the anime stickers?
quite likely, but it’s not as effective as arch
Eww, no, it’s not Arch
You need to wear the Fedora, not run it.
Seems like an appropriate response to a man who takes a womens studies course to try and pick up women
Especially if he doesn’t bathe
Live in the dorms and go to parties. The first week before classes start is magical for making friends.
Ah yes, shroom week.
Anon is ugly, stinks, or has a terrible personality; or a mix/combination of those.
Idk, I had a similar experience in my college classes. Male and female students - people were pretty cliquish and didn’t seem interested in meeting anyone. I was rarely able to establish even light relationships via my classes, and these never progressed to deeper relationships.
And this doesn’t seem like an “oh, that’s just you” problem, since I had no problem meeting people at school events, in clubs, randomly on the quad, in the bars near campus, etc. Classes just, in general, seemed to put people in an asocial mood. Which honestly makes sense to me - if you spend an hour concentrating on a lecture and then have somewhere to be afterwards, you aren’t very primed for the openmindedness and creativity necessary to interact with a stranger.
I had the same thought reading this. If Anon wants to socialize he should go to social events.
He had one dread, and fungus. Worked on people’s toilets with plungers.
I’ve seen a weird amount of Del references on Lemmy and I’m here for it.
it’s important to practice good hygiene
He’s obnoxious enough to try to pick up women in class. That’s enough, really.
I’ve never had such an easy time talking to girls as I did in college. That’s with me being short AF, quiet, and not particularly good looking. Either something has changed since then or OP has bad vibes.
Something has. I haven’t seen a student speak to another student in a classroom for a long time now.
Now this whole zoomers are having less sex than previous generations is starting to make sense.
Did you go to college before or after covid & social media.
the “anon” sounded like a creep that just goes around public places where they are not supposed to be. like a office party, COLLEGE class, library. especially while class is in session and your trying to flirt with someone trying to pay attention tot he teacher. probably got sussed out immediately. this goes the same for college libraries, if arnt in the class and dont know the person or studied together, or met in the same classes.
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It’s literally the FIRST rule.
Bruh it could’ve been me honestly, so sorry I tend to think when strangers speak to me I’m about to get scammed into something 😭
