Please don’t tell me to get off of it, I have old Livejournal friends to keep in touch with and that’s why I’m there.
Honestly, following gossip about people you’re actually connected with is still better than random accounts, pages, and posts you don’t follow being forced on your feed.
It unexpectedly happened to me recently, and I didn’t mean to follow the gossip so much as I was surprised, and I discovered the husband had put up a video of the wife cheating on him that he had hired a private investigator to follow. That is very much not nice, but also cheating is crappy. Last person I expected it from would be her.
So…did you goon?
I am too old to understand this reference…
Did you watch it?
Get off of it
Saying you have to stay on Facebook to keep up with people says you aren’t able or willing to put in the energy required to keep up with people yourself.
There are hundreds of communication platforms, and a most of them aren’t run by assholes trying to ruin society for their own personal gain.
That’s a 2 way street. I will say from experience that not using social media like Facebook dramatically dwindled who will reciprocate by text or email.
Fine by me for my life, but I saw the difference as they all used it more and more and I did not.
Same, but I also recognized that the people who wouldn’t message me back were not people that I wanted to spend extra effort on communication with when they couldn’t bother to respond to a text.
The people that matter make the effort, but many of us are concerned with the quantity of friends instead of the quality of the friendships. I have fewer people to talk today than I did on Facebook, but at least I actually want to talk to them instead of just going through the motions.
People used to write letters to stay in touch. Literally basic email could fill that niche.
Just write an email
Just call them
Yeah no thanks
I’ll just scan for their name in the papers.
They don’t live near me. They’re all online friends.
And? You and I are online, right now, communicating across an unknown amount of distance, while you tell me having online friends means you need Facebook to keep in touch.
There are plenty of ways to communicate with people who aren’t in your town. I have friends on the other side of the country, and a couple over in the EU, and I can communicate with them just fine and never touch Facebook. If you don’t want to leave Facebook, just say it instead of hiding behind trivialities to excuse you staying there. I have plenty of friends who choose to give a pound of flesh to Facebook for one reason or another, but at least they admit they want to be there.
Never cared for this type of stuff while I was on Facebook. It’s been ages though. I don’t miss it one bit.
Since when do random low quality social media posts qualify as “meme”?-_-
A meme is a “self-propagating” unit of culture.
OP saw this and was compelled to share it. It’s culturally relevant, as it speaks (perhaps satirically, perhaps seriously) about an aspect of human (more specifically: western online) culture.
It’s a meme. I don’t like it any more than you do but it IS definitionally a meme.
That’s why I tell people to loosen up when they complain that the format is being misused. If it works, it works. It is evolution. I don’t like the look of snails any less than the rest of the general population do, but snails evolved the way they did because it works.
90% of “memes” nowadays aren’t memes.
Like when you see they’ve changed to a joint account, and you think “ooh, which one of you cheated on the other?”
“We’re working on our relationship”. Well yes.
just stay on livejournal
Are you serious? It’s a propaganda tool basically owned by the Russian government now.
-gestures wildly at facebook-
If I had some other platform that was viable I would not be there. Some of it is beyond my control, but none of those friends use Livejournal anymore.
I know they’re not exactly the same from the few glimpses of Fandom history I’ve seen of LiveJournal, but you seriously didn’t like anything about Pleroma, Frendica, Hubzilla, Diaspora, AND Wafrn? The first 4 are all essentially Facebook clones, although they can be seen as macro-blogging sites too. Wafrn is literally Tumblr, just decentralized.
I would highly recommend giving those a chance rather than clinging to FB, as these friends could totally manage it.
Here’s the Fediverse.party site to check them all out (Wafrn link here).
You’re talking on another viable platform right now, plus Mastodon and even Bsky for that matter although given Bsky is centralized ultimately, and also ultimately corporate-ran, who knows when or if they won’t go down the same dark path to ruin as Twitter or Facebook some day.
After that I’ll change my top 8 on MySpace!
imagine if everyone just went back to the social media of the 2000s. i would go back to vox.com when it was a blogging platform and not a news site.
There is no reason good enough to still be on the Meta hamster wheel in 2025. Facebook, insta, whatever. Get out as fast as you can.
You know it’s a dumpster fire yet you remain. There was no way I was going to try and convince you.
Technically I still have an account. It’s from the before times when you could have a fake name and not need to verify anything. I’ve used it twice in 9 years, both times for selling things. Pissed it’s still the best place for that.
Facebook has had my middle name as a last name since day 1. I was never into giving them personal information.
I thought I was being original when I did this. Though I used my middle name so no one from my hometown could find me and I only use fb for marketplace. Fb needs a separate app for marketplace. When I bring this up my brother always goes “then I couldn’t check their page to see if they are a wierdo”. My guy, you were goonin over a girls account that bought your couch, you’re the creep. Like that’s exactly why it would be better. “Ebay 2.0 local buy sell trade” i don’t need to know Annie has 4 kids and golden retriever. All I need to know is the price, but I digress
Soooooo Craigslist? It’s wild to me how everyone flocked to FB.
I’m ok with a craigslist reboot. As long as we can bring back all the murders, drug dealers and hookers aka everything that made craigslist fun
It’s Angela, isn’t it?
Man, the idea of people changing names based on who they bang is so wild to me.
I can’t believe how much of the world just… goes with it and thinks it’s normal. It’s definitely not normal. Just some serious psychosexual patriarchy mindfuck going on for so many people.
Anglosaxon cultures out there arguing about pronouns and it turns out they just casually rewrite their identity based on who’s the owner of their daughters going into the second quarter of the 21st century. Nuts.
It’s normal because it’s what most do. That’s what normality is
Every part of that statement is arguable and every argument would be a bit of a waste of time, so we can probably leave it there.
It’s definitely not what most do where I’m from, though. It’s not a thing at all.
Normality: the condition of being normal; the state of being usual, typical, or expected
Typical and even expected in a lot of places. There it would be considered normal
You added “a lot of places”. It’s not typical or expected here, so it’s not normal here.
So “normalcy” on this is geographically bound. So is it normal if my normal and your normal are different and the Internet is making us rub our normals together?
Told you it was a waste of time.
It’s normal in those places because it’s usual, typical or expected. If it’s not those things where you live, it’s not normal where you live. It’s not any harder than that.
You were complaining about places where people “just go with it”. If by that you mean places where it’s typical or even expected, then it’s normal there.
It’s not necessarily geographical but just about community, group or societal behaviour.
Okay, so it’s not normal.
It’s me speaking, I say it’s not normal here, so it’s not normal. By your definition.
Of course if we dispense with the pendantry we would argue that the point of saying it’s not normal is to highlight how it’s inconsistent with the approach of society towards the rest of itself, so a society where women change their name to take their husband’s is not normal because it’s inconsistent with the rest of the mores regarding the interactions between men and women.
But that’d require not nitpicking a thing to pick a pedantic fight online that is a waste of time, so… not in the scope of this conversation, I suppose.
You don’t think it’s normal but for them it is. Simple as
It does make it easier to work out who’s paired up with who, and which kid belongs to which parent.
The history of the practice is pretty gross, but there are some benefits.
No, hold on, those two things aren’t remotely the same.
It makes sense to work out which kid belongs to which parent, for sure. For one thing, a whole bunch of the legal system is based on who inherits what when people die. You want some way to keep track of that. There’s some weirdness about keeping track of the father rather than the mother, and some cultures keep track of both or of the mother first, which makes more sense, but that’s a different conversation.
But “who’s paired up with who”? Absolutely not. Why would it be more convenient to be unable to separate sexual partners from descendants? That is not a practical thing. And the stuff that’s preserving, which is that women are historically treated like children without full legal autonomy and part of the stuff being managed by a paterfamilias, is fortunately no longer true.
And of course once that gets recognized enough that even a bunch of Christianity admits that not all relationships are forever and reintroduces divorce (after centuries of treating women like perpetual property of their husbands) it makes absolutely no sense to have half the population ping-pong between names over their lifetime an arbitrary number of times. It’s not only logically absurd, it is actively inconvenient to both the first goal of pairing descendants but also administrative bookkeeping in general. I can only imagine the amount of public records errors induced by women changing their name a bunch of times over their lifetimes.
It is. And young women are kind of forced into it as part of the conventional ideas of marriage and weddings. I didn’t change my last name, because I married an asshole who wanted me to feel bad for wanting “normal” things like that, which is another story, and in the end I’m very glad I didn’t, but my narcissistic mother was OBSESSED with me changing my name.
