I absolutely need more wholesome shit like this in my life, this is totally adorable omg!!! <3

Curls are hell 😭

Miish… I promise you’ll be okay if you power through the bad. You’re a lot better than you think. Much cuter too. Please be kind to yourself…

Miish…

REAL THO - my password manager is a .md file on my phone not synced anywhere. Almost all my passwords are still the same as each other. One of them includes my deadname.

…I work with a cybersecurity expert regularly. When he found out… oh boy was that a lecture. I’m fiiiiiiiine.

Should have REAAAAALLY cracked my egg sooner doing that… Instead it took another 5.5 years and I get to start HRT at 23 instead of 17 😭… My friend’s gf’s dress was so nice… And the aspiring makeup artist who was deathly afraid of men to the point of being a shutin and not allowing men near her place somehow didn’t have a problem seeing me specifically, to do my makeup - HUUUUUUUH… IM AN IDIOT

Getting strangled in a crowd that did nothing about it certainly didn’t help tho…

This has got to be the cutest thing I’ve read in a while, omg Miisha, I’m so proud of you! <3

❤❤❤❤

Mrrrrrow… 😖

Omg I yearn so bad, but I WISH I could just imagine the pain away… Crush is too cute & kind and UGH, JUST TAKE ME PLEEAAAAASE

Ugly… HUH???

A decentralized chat platform. blahaj.zone has a server too that I believe is linked on the Lemmy homepage.

https://matrix.org/

Girlie, I’ve been there pretty recently myself. Had a very long time recovering, a PTSD diagnosis… The works… And I can say it gets better. I believed I would never feel love again.

It took me a full year to be able to feel love again at all, and I honestly think I got lucky. Did a lot of reading and soul-searching.

This community helped me quite a bit. I’m sure it’ll be there for you too. Hell, if you’ve got Matrix and would like to chat, I’m always down for more friends.

Take care girl - you’ll bewitch someone again yet.

REAAAAAAAAL. Would kill for even some basic advice.

Though, based on what I know so far for those who may not;

• high-waisted pants accentuate waist
• tie-in-the-middle jackets accentuate “hourglass” (sorta)
• perhaps obvious, but always go for the section of clothes opposite your assigned gender at birth… How things “fit” changes
• belts help accentuate figure
• accessorizing helps femininity
• if fit, shaved, and (maybe not necessary???) On HRT, showing more skin helps femininity. Bonus points showing a bra strap or two.

Take my advice with a grain of salt. Trying to let anyone know what I’ve learned whilst actively struggling with exactly this myself. Albeit my current issues are mostly financial…

Edit: makeup helps too. Mascara is super easy and fast. Thick eyeliner has actually managed to get me gendered correctly to a limited degree.

Girl, your wisdom is an inspiration. Not op, but thank you. You’re a truly wonderful human being and exactly the sort I look up to as the best of the best. Thanks for existing girlie <3

Miisha, please don’t go! I saw you’ve deleted your Matrix… please reach out again. You are one of the best friends I’ve had in a very very long time. If you hadn’t reached out to me in the first place through here, I’d still be so lost… hell, I’m gonna be lost without you. This last month has been a time of looking forward to your chats and responses damn near every day… It’ll really suck without you… please don’t go over a couple crappy days… I still wanna talk games and animanga with you, and learn more from you, and help you where I can as well… you haven’t been a burden at all - really, you’ve been the opposite.

Hey Brooke,

I tend to lurk, and not post much… And I definitely haven’t been through nearly as much as you have, but that sounds like absolute hell. You’re really strong for sticking through all you’re going through, and I’m happy (proud the right word?) you’re such a wonderful person despite it all - not everyone can stick through and still be around to help others as I regularly see you doing here, and you have inadvertently done for me in doing so. Forgive me, but your ex is a shitbag, and while it sounds like your ex-friend isn’t much better, its clear you do still care… And believe me I get the feeling… Its hard to stop caring for those we love even after things end terribly and become a toxic mess. Sending virtual hugs from California your way!🫂🫂

If you want to vent or talk, feel free to message me. If you’ve got Matrix that makes it easy (would prefer to give that in a DM tho). I’d really like to help however I can girl…

AHHHH, I’m so sorry. Thank you though. As I’m aware, puberty lasts around 10 years and yeah… I’m definitely impatient about it sometimes. In all honesty I do think I have a decent chance at passing - its just that friends don’t really know like… Anything about this stuff… I’m one of the only trans people they know at all, if they know any, and even if they do I’m the one they’re closer to so in the one who gets fielded questions I don’t always have answers to despite really wanting them if that makes sense. I really appreciate your kindness.

1. 1.5mls SubQ weekly and one 0.5MG pill of dutasteride per night.
2. Whatsawhawha?
3. I’ve noticed very little since starting estrogen. Body mass redistribution is noticeable in my figure. I grew boobs pretty fast, but that slowed quick too and I am ultimately still pretty flat. Noticeable decrease in muscle mass. Body hair slightly thinner. The world appears visually more saturated… Can’t tell if that’s placebo, but it never went away and was pretty instant.
4. Yes, truth serum is alcohol, and I don’t tend to drink often but sometimes when I do I can overdo it which is a problem, yeaaah. Trying to be better any time I do, and have been successful generally. I appreciate the concern but no need to worry.
5. Super hard to tell. Yes and no? Everyone in my life is suuuuper busy, and I usually get to talk to any one person once a week or so. Those that aren’t are the sort that are supportive, kind, and willing to learn, but don’t know much and so I can’t really go to in any sense other than occassional vent-space. I don’t like venting to people too much either, which ultimately leads to bottling up and then… Well… The occasional vent anyways… Which I like even less. I do have matrix, and would absolutely appreciate any extra support I’d you’re willing to give any.

Also, don’t worry about asking questions, I’m a pretty open book and you’re offering support. Thank you. <3

I started on my 23rd! Thank you for the kind words. Yeah, the “give it a year” thing is what I keep telling myself. Paranoia and impatience have me in an occasional spiral like the above… Sorry about that. Trying to workaround it best I can in the meantime by learning better fashion, but I gotta say I don’t think everything I’m trying is working and I definitely don’t have funds to throw at a wall figuring it out right now. I’m lost.

I’d love to chat! <3

Omfg I wish. 23, Barely 3 months into estrogen… Only maybe a month into deutasteride… And well I don’t exactly pass. At least YET… I think I can one day I can but am really really uncertain about now or how. I don’t see “passing” as a requirement but when it FEELS possible… Well… Yknow… Hard to get my mind off of. I get those looks in my redneck-ass hometown if you get my meaning, but I still feel like I’m just passing as “gay”… I reaaaally don’t know where I’m at and am… Ugh. Def somewhere between " gay" and just “emo” I think? Hard to tell alone.

Okay, tbh idk. If anyone active in this community is willing to DM and help or someone know what/where is a good place I should post, it’s much appreciated - been lurking for years now - y’all are the most welcoming community ever, and have me hopeful enough I’ve switched my lemmy instance… Feeling like this might be opportune time?

Note: this post (comment… I’m so sorry…) probably looks a lot more spiral-ey than intended upon rereading it… Sending it as is because I still honestly have no idea how to word this better… Thanks to anyone who tolerates this, you’re the best, really. Might delete soon for sake of others if I’m a total idiot… May have a bit of truth serum flowing through me rn if you catch my drift…

Edit: …yes… “Truth serum” is alcohol. And uh… Definitely too much last night. Apologies for the vent.