It looks like taxes increase and any kind of post-life planning can be done with a few legal filings rather than getting married. Is there any real benefit? It kinda seems like it’s just a way to trap people in relationships, probably traditionally, the woman.
One benefit is that if you are a US citizen, and your spouse is not, you don’t have to wait as many years to apply for citizenship. It can also help your application, as long as you are able to provide sufficient evidence that the relationship is genuine and not just to hasten the application. (Still ungodly expensive and difficult to get citizenship though – the idea that you “just marry” someone is an utter myth.)
Navigating credit and finances is easier.
It can be easier to get access to be there for each other during a health crisis, and I know my parents have appreciated how much help their son-in-law has given them when they need moral support during medical appointments, etc. Sometimes he’s been there for them when I am unable.
My husband and I didn’t marry for these reasons, though. We had been in a monogamous co-habitative relationship for five years leading up to the proposal, and it was more for customary/cultural reasons. You’re right that the practical benefits are pretty marginal.
It can be, yeah. I think this is an ongoing problem that was even worse in the past. I disagree that it is “just” why people marry, though. I was fortunate to have parents who are married, but it was always clear they were both equal partners in the relationship. Didn’t really subscribe to traditional gender roles and such. I’m really lucky.
It’s always awkward when someone will ask me, “Who’s the woman in the relationship?” Like, what kind of question is that? But yeah, there are a lot of people who unfortunately do have this idea of ownership. Terms like “trophy wife” seem so problematic to me, like wtf bro.
Gonna finish by adding there are many different ways a relationship can look, and marriage is just one of them. I think if it’s consensual and equitable, it can be a beautiful thing, but so can many other types of relationships. It made sense for my husband and I, but it probably doesn’t make sense to a whole lot of people, and that’s fine. I think no one should ever feel pressured to get married or not to get married.