As much as I hate this schmuck, the proposed law isn’t bad on the surface. I’d be furious if I had to work past retirement to keep supporting an ex wife whom I divorced decades prior. Like I get the intent of alimony, but to me it seems quite a bit outdated when most working households have both adults having their own careers. And if a couple divorces, why should the breadwinner have to pay to maintain the other’s lifestyle instead of a stipend until the other gets on their feet. I’d be raging if I was busting my ass to keep making money, and her insta feed is nothing but her going shopping and having spa days on my dime.
Yeah, I’m conflicted on this one, absolutely hate DeSantis, but this doesn’t sound bad. There’s a lot of laws/policies that unfairly punish one group over another in divorces, custody, and child support. The pendulum on that front swung too far from one end of the spectrum to the other and needs to be equalized.
Get a prenuptial agreement or don’t marry a woman with no moral respect for anyone but herself. (Yes there are exceptions to this.) But I’ve seen too many men and women choose partners that are obviously terrible human beings, then go full surprised when that person ruined their lives. I have a friend that is still paying for her ex-husbands life style. I feel bad but all of her friends and family told her not to marry that guy but she doubled down and is on the hook until he marries again.
A lady I know had to divorce her husband after he had a stroke and turned into a raging, abusive narcissist. I can only imagine how confusing and painful it was for her.
Like I get the intent of alimony, but to me it seems quite a bit outdated when most working households have both adults having their own careers.
I don’t think you do. If both people have the same level of income, there’s no alimony. Alimony is meant to allow someone who has been a house spouse for years (decades) to think about divorce, so they are not trapped by finances.
How easy do you think it is to get a job after working part time (or not working) for 20 years? Older with no recent experience is not going to get you any jobs.
Wich is precisely the point of this sham of a law. I think Republicans know that they are decades away from revoking no-fault divorce, but they can erode a woman’s ability to leave an unhappy marriage. This, abortion bans, school choice, it’s all about turning the clock back before women’s lib, ERA, etc.
But we should also have social safety nets in place such that alimony isn’t necessary.
The idea of alimony, though, has morphed over the years from allowing someone to, as you say, consider divorce without being trapped by finances, to replacing a stay-at-home spouse’s potential income had they not been the stay-at-home spouse. That change makes me pretty uncomfortable, especially the government stepping in requiring an ex spouse to pay what the other person might have made.
As much as I hate this schmuck, the proposed law isn’t bad on the surface. I’d be furious if I had to work past retirement to keep supporting an ex wife whom I divorced decades prior. Like I get the intent of alimony, but to me it seems quite a bit outdated when most working households have both adults having their own careers. And if a couple divorces, why should the breadwinner have to pay to maintain the other’s lifestyle instead of a stipend until the other gets on their feet. I’d be raging if I was busting my ass to keep making money, and her insta feed is nothing but her going shopping and having spa days on my dime.
Yeah, I’m conflicted on this one, absolutely hate DeSantis, but this doesn’t sound bad. There’s a lot of laws/policies that unfairly punish one group over another in divorces, custody, and child support. The pendulum on that front swung too far from one end of the spectrum to the other and needs to be equalized.
Get a prenuptial agreement or don’t marry a woman with no moral respect for anyone but herself. (Yes there are exceptions to this.) But I’ve seen too many men and women choose partners that are obviously terrible human beings, then go full surprised when that person ruined their lives. I have a friend that is still paying for her ex-husbands life style. I feel bad but all of her friends and family told her not to marry that guy but she doubled down and is on the hook until he marries again.
Problem is, you can end up with someone who isn’t a piece of shit but turns into one, or was always a piece of shit but they hid it well.
A lady I know had to divorce her husband after he had a stroke and turned into a raging, abusive narcissist. I can only imagine how confusing and painful it was for her.
That sounds absolutely horrifying, seeing someone you love turn into someone else, that too due to no fault of their own.
I don’t think you do. If both people have the same level of income, there’s no alimony. Alimony is meant to allow someone who has been a house spouse for years (decades) to think about divorce, so they are not trapped by finances.
How easy do you think it is to get a job after working part time (or not working) for 20 years? Older with no recent experience is not going to get you any jobs.
Wich is precisely the point of this sham of a law. I think Republicans know that they are decades away from revoking no-fault divorce, but they can erode a woman’s ability to leave an unhappy marriage. This, abortion bans, school choice, it’s all about turning the clock back before women’s lib, ERA, etc.
Alimony shouldn’t exist.
But we should also have social safety nets in place such that alimony isn’t necessary.
The idea of alimony, though, has morphed over the years from allowing someone to, as you say, consider divorce without being trapped by finances, to replacing a stay-at-home spouse’s potential income had they not been the stay-at-home spouse. That change makes me pretty uncomfortable, especially the government stepping in requiring an ex spouse to pay what the other person might have made.
In Germany there is this net. But you still have to pay alimony.