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my pet loves me because I give her belly rubs before she gets out of bed in the morning
she will not get out of bed until the belly rubs happen
her relationship with food is a little more feral
Long story short: When I first met my husband, he was recently widowed and just wanted a transactional arrangement to get his mind off things. It stayed that way until he suddenly got meningitis. I was terrified at the thought of losing him as a person, so I upended my life to be with him and take care of him, even though I didn’t have to. That’s the moment it stopped being transactional. We got married last year.
Ugh we need more stories like this man, the reality is that things do suck but that doesn’t mean people can’t change. And shit, they might be able to change but not enough, in which case it’s maybe not meant to be, but good on you for still trying!
As someone blessed with the most patient partner ever regarding my own stupid male society learned bullshit: I would’ve ended my life a long time ago if it weren’t for her. Our society makes men feel fucking insane for being semi-normal, emotional, affectionate, and so on.
It’s truly asinine knowing how much pain my friends live with that they will never understand because they are desperately clinging onto their perceived masculinity.
What a sweet love story! Congrats on the marriage !!
Hah, joke’s on you.
My cats literally won’t eat when someone else feeds them. If my neighbors feed the cats when I’m out for a few days, the cats will wait basically untill they’re starving before eating, because (presumably) the neighbors have fed them wrong for some reason.
I’ve had a message that was basically “We saw no food, so we fed them, and then they didn’t eat at all!”. Yeah, it takes about a day for food to become free of the taint of unknown tresspassers.
I’ve also seen that video of a guy who’s cats won’t eat until he picks them up and hugs them. Maybe he trained them even though he doesn’t ask in the vid, but that’s more than just sustenance seeking either way.
Sometimes when I cook, I make a separate portion just for my dog (free of any ingredients he can’t eat)
Now when I cook something he can’t have, he won’t eat his dog food until I ring a fork around his bowl as if I cooked it
Yeah they traumatize the shit out of you
I’m sorry for your trauma. You sound hurt and I would understand that, but try not to project your hurt onto others and their parental relationships.
Being traumatized by your loving parents to learn life lessons > being traumatized by life to learn lessons
I know it’s not true for every situation, but in 99% of healthy-ish parental relationships it will ring true. I wish I could’ve learned so many things the “traditional” way through a parenting mistake 😤😤😤😤
