But the post literally says “romantic” which implies that you’re interested in them, nobody is asking you to play therapist for dudes you don’t like the idea is to allow them to be vulnerable in your relationship. For what it’s worth I’ve never had issues with this in my own relationships or with my male friends but then again I run in very specific circles it seems. I don’t get why everything has to pass some test of cost-benefit these days, I’ve been people’s sole support system before and while it was rough I wouldn’t have gone back and let them continue to be miserable just to avoid “kind of a lot”.