• sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyzEnglish
    3·
    2 days ago

    It’s not good to date when I’m crashing out. Nobody’s job should be to try and “save me”.

    Also I’ve realized most people where I lived are on some dominance-brained shit or have spent most of their lives having to survive living around dominance minded people.

  • hardcoreufo@lemmy.world
    1·
    1 day ago

    Eh just kind of stopped caring. Had a bad breakup a decade ago and moved to a new city, went on tons of dates and had a handful of semi successful relationships the first few years but nothing that ever clicked or felt right long term.

    Then I went back to school, started a new career and was generally too busy until COVID hit and I realized I was kinda happy being alone. Certainly happier than being in a bad relationship like the last few. So I’ve just been doing my own thing since then.

  • insomniac_lemon@lemmy.cafeEnglish
    3·
    2 days ago

    Never had much luck with anything social my entire life, and I have too many types of problems. I just exist now.

  • AverageEarthling@feddit.onlineEnglish
    17·
    3 days ago

    I was married til I was 38 (now 48). Got divorced, kids were grown, so I dated. A LOT. I’ve come to the conclusion that if you are single after 40, you are a basket case. EVERYone that I dated was crazy. Fun, but crazy. I’m just too old for that now. lol. I’d rather read books and hang out with my cat. And yes, I realize people probably think I’m crazy too. #crazycatgentlemen

  • Tedesche@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    2 days ago

    I decided in my mid-to-late 20’s that I did not want kids and that relationships tend to bring too much stress into my life. And from what I’ve seen from most other people’s relationships and marriages, I do not regret my decision. And these aren’t even bad relationships/marriages. They’re very functional. But there’s still stress and “drama” in all of them. No, thanks.

    • AskewLord@piefed.socialEnglish
      4·
      2 days ago

      Yes, even in happy relationships there is so much extraneous drama injected into ordinary situations.

      I’ve had so many kind gesture towards my partner rejected and shoved back in my face. It’s just not worth it anymore.

      When I buy myself a coffee or flowers, I don’t scream at myself for getting the wrong coffee/flowers, or start ranting how I don’t do this often enough, or that I’m trying to manipulate them… etc etc.

      I just get to enjoy the coffee or the flowers and be at peace and think how pleasant it is. God forbid something just be enjoyable instead of weaponized.

  • Asafum@lemmy.world
    91·
    3 days ago

    Nearing 40 in an area with nothing but old rich people, currently renting one of their garage “apartments.”

    Atypical “introverted nerd” type, as in I work in a factory as opposed to the tech field, and am never around people like myself.

    On a 1-10 scale of appearance I’m like 2.5

    But worst of all, my greatest possible sin, I never want to live with a dog. According to the dating profiles I see that eliminated 99.9999999% of them.

    As to why I’ll continue to be single aside from all the above, I gave up ~2 years ago. My last relationship was 10 years ago. Some of us just aren’t desirable to anyone and I just have to accept that.

  • Send Pics of Sandwiches@sh.itjust.works
    6·
    3 days ago

    I’ve lived in the same place for four years, which is the longest I’ve been anywhere since I was 15, and right now I’m not taking care of any dying relatives which has also been a constant over the years, so I’m not in a rush to make any drastic changes to my situation.