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Don’t be crap. This means you.
I don’t get it
I think it’s pretty simple. In any given situation, don’t be crap. This means you.
When I got my first car my grandmother told me “don’t do anything to it that makes it stand out to the police.”
If you’re in a group and talking about someone who isn’t there, imagine they are. That way, you’ll never say something you might regret later.
Your job is not your family. You owe them nothing. Do your job well and leave the work at the door when you leave at the end of the day. Unless you’re an owner, every bit of extra work you do is you being robbed.
Lately i talked to a lot of elderly people or people who just retired because work. They don’t know each other, they don’t even live close to each other, but the thing they have in common is the need to talk to me about young people who don’t want to work anymore. Telling me stories that “young people” just leave work when their shift is over, not caring about the company at all.
They’re upset the McDonald’s employee isn’t the happiest person ever, catering to their every whim. Thats really it. They want us to be little happy bootlickers who work our asses off for nothing.
I complain about young people too but this isnt why. Dont work shitty jobs for shitty pay. If you must work a shitty job, they better fuckng pay up. Isnt that the whole “invisible hand” capitalists love so much? If you can’t find workers , you’re either an asshole, or not paying enough.
Ask them if their employer paid for their retirement (pension). Ask if they were repeatedly laid off because the work can be done [poorly] cheaper in another country. Ask if they were union.
Many companies used to be loyal to their employees and vice versa. That is all but gone now and the companies cry that nobody is loyal.
Having just been made redundant this week after 15 years this is so true.
I managed it very well, very rarely having committed more than my allotted hours each week but I know for many they would have to have been very disciplined to achieve this.
I leave with no malice or ill feeling as a result. I’d hate to think how I’d feel otherwise
Admitting a mistake is NOT the same as admitting weakness or stupidity.
It was advice I have myself in college… Don’t focus on getting good grades, focus on learning. Judge your success on how much you learned.
The only time my grades actually mattered was interviewing for jobs right out of college. After that, every other job is based on your previous job and non no one ever asked again.
I’m in engineering and it this doesn’t necessarily translate to other fields. But I’m currently the cto for a mid sized tech company.
This one may sound a bit silly, but it’s worked for me quite a few times:
“Whatever happened before or might happen later, right now, just for this moment, everything’s fine.”
(of course, if something bad is actually happening at a given moment you’re probably not going to be spending time remembering that little tidbit. It’s for when you’re feeling depressed or anxious).
HR rep: if you’re gonna go down take people with you.
Never make fun of someone’s job. No matter how “beneath you” it is, somebody has to do it, and we should all appreciate that they do it.
What about looksmaxing influencers? I can make fun of their job right?
That’s not a job.
Emotional and ready to quit your job/break up with someone/confront someone?
Write down what you want to say/write. WRITE IT ALL DOWN.
Wait 24 hours. Read it again.
Do you still think you should send it? Then send it.
80% of the time my issue was stupid and my reaction inappropriate, but because I kept my mouth shut, all I had to do was tear up a piece of paper.
Thanks dad. That’s served me well.
Also, even if you are making the right descision in breaking things off, often the more you say the more ammo/pain you are giving to the other party. Most of the time, the “wait 24h” trick makes you realize you are saying too much.
Only break one law at a time.
Thank you pops. It probably did keep me from fucking my life up (worse).
My father put it a slightly different way:
If you’re going to do something dumb, be smart about it
Go away from your home for college.
It will give you a chance to grow as a person.
From one of my high school math teachers.
I am really glad I went to college far enough away from home my folks wouldn’t visit on a whim, but close enough to drive back for holidays easily. And after I moved back home I have had a much greater appreciation for everyone and everything I had been away from.
Hate and bitterness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die
Except if it’s self hatred; then it works like a charm
Lefty loosey righty tighty
The three least heard words in the universe will serve you well, and often catch people off guard - don’t be afraid to use them.
“I was wrong.”
Admit your mistakes when they happen, then when something goes wrong no one will accuse you.
It’s also not hard to do casually without having to grovel. My nursing subspecialty is violence management and I frequently respond to things with,“thank you for reminding me, I’m going to go do that now!” and,“I hadn’t realized that was your preference, thank you for letting me know!” or,“that’s a good thing to point out I’m glad you’re being an active participant in your care!” You don’t even have to say you’re wrong half the time you can also just regularly tell people they’re right.
definitely some layers to this advice for sure, situation and relationship matters!
