• Boomer Humor Doomergod@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2511·
    2 months ago

    I work with a guy like this. Lead his icebreaker with “I don’t understand people so don’t expect me to interact with you.”

    He’s the most brilliant person I’ve ever worked with. His knowledge is encyclopedic. He will show you how what you’re asking is idiotic in as few words as is necessary. He has no fear of manager or customer.

    He has my eternal allegiance.

  • rumschlumpel@feddit.org
    1257·
    2 months ago

    Wouldn’t quite call this “gigachad” behavior, but it’s good and healthy to not jump on literally anyone who offers, even if you aren’t particularly interested. I suspect anon sees this as “gigachad” because they’re steeped in manosphere/incel ideology (unsurprising for a 4chan user).

    Definitely autistic, possibly including the woman.

    • hector@lemmy.today
      104·
      2 months ago

      Yeah I don’t associate being rude to someone that is awkwardly expressing an interest in you, cool, or alpha, or whatever the fuck gigachad is, it’s just a dick move, that will make that person expressing interest lose confidence to ask out the next person, which is a problem in today’s society more than ever with online dating kind of poisoning the well.

      There is a nice way to say no, and autism is no excuse for not being nice there.

      • rumschlumpel@feddit.org
        12·
        2 months ago

        We don’t know whether the guy already tried saying ‘no’ in a nice way, though. Sometimes people just don’t get the hint, especially if one or both people in the interaction are neurodiverse.

        • hector@lemmy.today
          22·
          2 months ago

          I suppose that’s true, but I know many people think their hints are obvious, when they aren’t to a great many of us, at least in the moment after the fact we might realize someone hinted at us. People are dense at times, not just autists either. So maybe they thought they had been clear in their rejection of their attention but it wasn’t picked up on?

          I mean I have been hit on by people I’ve no interest in, and I’ve never been so rude. I’ve also asked people out and had them rudely say no when a more polite way would have been appreciated, and they might have thought hints were clear, but they weren’t to me at all. And I’m not alone in being slow to take the hints, men in general are slow to get such hints by woman they are rather known for it as I understand it.

          • Buddahriffic@lemmy.world
            1·
            2 months ago

            If she asked if she was annoying, she knew on some level.

            When I was younger, I used to get so annoyed at hinting disinterest rather than outright stating it, but I eventually realized that if someone is interested and doesn’t have barriers to getting involved, they won’t be coy about it. If they are busy but otherwise interested in a date when asked, they’ll usually say more than “I have plans that day”, like “but I’m free on x day” or “maybe another time?” or “I’d love to go on a date with you but can’t that specific time”.

            If they are evasive at all about it, they are either not interested in general and are just trying to be polite (NOT really for your sake, so don’t start about how you’d rather they be clear, it’s to protect themselves from the pieces of shit that get aggressive when they realize they don’t have a chance), or they have other shit going on that complicates any interest (like it’s hard for them to schedule a date ahead of time because they are already in a relationship and need a good excuse to get away for a date).

  • chunes@lemmy.world
    25·
    2 months ago

    I’ve been in this literal exact situation. If it hadn’t happened 20 years ago I’d be worried this anon is talking about me

  • ronl2k@lemmy.worldEnglish
    16·
    2 months ago

    Sounds like a man who knows what he likes and doesn’t want social involvement with people he doesn’t like. Why does that behavior have to have a name?

    • YiddishMcSquidish@lemmy.todayEnglish
      101·
      2 months ago

      Yes. I’m tall and conventionally good looking. Had almost the same situation happen to me, except for the shouting “yes” part.

      • Psythik@lemmy.world
        81·
        2 months ago

        I am also above average in heights and looks. A girl would follow me around in high school and harass and make fun of me all the time while still trying to be my friend. I couldn’t stand her at the time but in retrospect she was definitely crushing on me.

        • tetris11@feddit.ukEnglish
          132·
          2 months ago

          I am over 7 feet tall and have won several male beauty pageants. Throngs of of overaged women would break into the store next door at night in order to smell the very toilet paper that I may one day use. At the time it seemed frightening, but in retrospect it was pretty flattering

    • rumba@lemmy.zipEnglish
      7·
      2 months ago

      Absolutely.

      She’s extroverted and has some damage going on. Not nominal to chase people down and ask them if you’re annoying. He’s introverted and is already exhausted by her.

      I’ve known a couple of women like that.

        • rumba@lemmy.zipEnglish
          4·
          2 months ago

          If she’s asking if he thinks she’s annoying, that’s a red flag. The fact that she ran down to his car to ask him, double.

          But hey, two people with that same energy prob work well together, just not stares at wall guy :)