Let her be. She’ll be doing that for the rest of her life and there is nothing anyone but licensed therapist can do.
She won’t let a licensed therapist help her, so no, they also can’t do anything.
They don’t want a relationship, they want a never ending storyline. And if there’s no drama then they’ll make some.
This was my life for 7 years. I’ve been happily single ever since she found some other poor sob to torment with her bullshit.
4 years and one canceled marriage 3 months prior. 5 if you count the fact that I took her back twice before realizing she was always going to be like that.
I feel you even if I wouldn’t say I’m entirely happy.
If there’s something that drives me up the wall, it’s this shit. You found someone nice and you blame them for your fuckups and try to turn everyone against them. How scummy can you be!
Somewhat tangential, but my sister-in-law insists that people use “latinx” whenever she hears someone say latino or latina. This despite the fact that latinos overwhelmingly prefer the terms “latino” or “hispanic” to describe themselves; in fact most have never even heard the term latinx and most of those who have are offended by that, not by latino or hispanic. I like pointing out to my (very white) sister-in-law that there is nothing more white than telling other ethnicities what they should or should not be called.
Latinx sounds like a new Linux distribution.
we should make it a distro, just to fuck it over. Sounds funny to me.
I support this
What would the default language be?
Latin, obvs
Python of course (coz its such a snake!)
Esperanto.
There isn’t already an Esperanto distro? That feels like something RMS would have fought for
Latinx sounds like a cartoon about Latina fairies.
I thought it was a music genre for a long time.
It should also bee a cool drink or a bag of chips.
LATIN-X!!! THE BEST DRINK YOUR MOM HAS NEVER HEARD OF!!!
sis havin’ an extra slice of that white-savior complex
Saving from what actually? 🤔
Presumably from her guilt
Latino/a individuals have overwhelmingly said “No” to Latinx.
I haven’t had many latina friends, but the ones I have had basically said a slur would actually be less offensive than latinx, and yeah, white people dictating what other cultures can and can’t do… kinda racist…
okay but what do genderqueer people whose first language is spanish say?
Latine! It has the added benefit of being pronounceable in Spanish, unlike latinx.
to be fair I don’t know how to pronounce the x in english either.
but that is the one I’ve heard most often. edit: e not x, most often
The male form doubles as gender neutral. Some people have tried to start using -e ending, but I’m pretty sure basically no one actually uses it.
Edit: Gotta love the dualing anecdote replies.
e ending is what I’ve seen from gender non conforming spanish-as-first-language speakers most often. I’m gonna go with it until it starts being overwhelmed with something else, languages being living things and them being the people who I see as having any right to determine this bit.
They can call themselves latinx and I would call them that as well, if that’s what they choose. The issue is with people (like my sister-in-law) insisting that everybody hispanic should be called latinx.
im just saying, those are the only people who I listen to on this discourse and I will parrot whatever they say, because my tounge absolutely defiles that language every time I try to speak it, and don’t think straight cis people have a right to an opinion here, regardless of their language preference.
most of those who have are offended by that
I’ve never heard of anyone having strong feelings, one way or the other, outside of the Internet.
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Most of the Latino people I know are down to be called Spanish. Latinx is ridiculous.
Guessing you’re being downvoted because Latino != Spanish just like American != British. “Spanish descent” is applicable to some, but Latino backgrounds are as diverse as American or Canadian backgrounds. It doesn’t refer to a race or culture but to people who identify with the Latin American region (Central and South American and parts of the Caribbean).
This is a TIL for me btw, as I originally was just going to respond that it includes Portugese but then looked up more information about “Latino” because I realized my idea of it was very general and wasn’t sure if those with Aztec descent, for example, would be considered “Latino”. The answer is yes, along with many descendent from areas all over the world, in case the first paragraph didn’t make that clear.
People just don’t know how many Latino people refer to themselves as Spanish. Especially in urban areas and traveling workers.
it’s about the minority that don’t feel as though latino/a doesn’t describe them. it’s not for the majority favored by the status quo
So displease the majority to please the minority?
displease the majority to give visibility to the minority. no one is hurt when latinx is used, but the people latinx additionally represents face violence every day
It’s not as simple as pronouns in the English language when it comes to ‘latinx’. The word is not that easy to pronounce to someone who knows Spanish but doesn’t know English all that well, which are the people this word is supposed to include. It’s quite literally imposing English language norms on the Spanish language which can be considered offensive in itself.
Besides, personal opinion but it sounds stupid. If there’s a need to call someone from Latin America a gender neutral term, latine is a much better alternative - it’s more accepted within Spanish speaking communities, -e is already found in non-gendered names within Spanish language and just generally doesn’t sound like something Musk would have written.
well the term was created by a latinx individual so that’s a bit of a moot point. I do agree that latine makes more sense but what do I know
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i will note that latine, and latrine are very similar. So maybe not that one
im pretty sure everybody faces potential violence every day, but what do i know.
yes but obviously some people face real violence every day
yeah i feel like maybe we should probably just focus on the brunt of the violence (where the brunt of the victims are going to be) instead of like, theorizing words we can use to refer to things that already have words to refer to them in a marginally more PC(is this even the right term for this?) way?
On the other hand its basically Americans telling others how to speak their language.
latinx was coined by a latinx activist
More like ‘anon knows what a normal and healthy relationship is’
4channer knows what a normal and healthy relationship is?
Sounds fake and gay
He probably got the Latino friend to write the post.
OMG IT’S LATINX YOU SEXIST /s
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Does she listen to Taylor Swift?
Plot twist: it was Taylor Swift
“This relationship is great and all, but studies show that if I made an entire album about being in a relationship, it’ll tank my entire career, so bye!”
She just likes the high of drama. When emotions are running high some people get an adrenaline rush. It’s why for some people makeup sex can feel great. Since their body is full of adrenaline after a verbal fight. They’re basically adrenaline junkies, but instead of base jumping of a bridge they achieve their high trough drama. So when they get into a normal relationship they are numb to the highs and lows of this kind of relationship. Since they are used to extreme highs and lows. They go into withdrawal in a normal relationship and then they feel unhappy.
Just do meth like a normal person geez
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Woman’s gotta get off those Disney movies.
Or its greentext and you shouldn’t take it at face value
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I didn’t like them both
Yeah, one is a drama junkie, the other uses 4chan
Trying to explain how a relationship works to your partner it’s also very weird. Still, fuck that.
idk man explaining relationships seems like a pretty reasonable and normal thing to me, if both people aren’t on the same terms i’m not sure how anybody is expecting it to work otherwise.
You could subscribe to a “social” relationship standard but that’s stupid.
Explaining what you seek in a relationship is good, doesn’t mean you need to “educate” your partner on what you think love is, everyone has different needs.
Educating your partner on what you think love is, and what you seek in a relationship is good. How can they be expected to know, otherwise?
I guess my english comprehension today failed me because I said the same thing minus the educate part, isn’t the word used in a teaching context? I read OP’s post as someone who has a higher understanding of what a relationship is, which is both weird and untrue since you absolutely can have fireworks/effusive emotions after the honeymoon phase.
which is both weird and untrue since you absolutely can have fireworks/effusive emotions after the honeymoon phase.
you definitely can but its never going to be the same as it was during the honeymoon phase, there’s a reason they call it that. Though for me personally there would never be a honeymoon phase lol. I just don’t approach relationships like that.
i believe those to be the same thing intrinsically. Gaslighting your partner into believing something that isnt a thing is bad though.
If they’re not getting it, then sometimes it’s necessary lol
