First of all: congratulations on coming out!
I think it might be easiest to start by trying to go to LGBT/gay-friendly clubs or parties and try to get comfortable with the idea of flirting or getting to know likeminded people in general. I am from the EU so I can’t speak for the US but here almost all of these gatherings are open for straight people too so don’t hesitate to bring a friend along who you feel comfortable around. In a location like that you can be sure that it’s not because of your sexual orientation if advances fail and get comfortable to be in contact with other men that like men.
Disregarding sexual orientation, as a 30something year old myself I can confidently say that I know only very few people that seem to have figured stuff/life/anything out and to be honest I think they just hide their insecurities better. My general experience with people is that everybody is anxious and it’s actually a good ice breaker to admit your own fears and insecurities.
I wish you pleasant experiences (:
*Edited a spelling error out
After reading through the comments it could also be related to climate change but what first came to mind was the american housing crisis. Some people seem to think that the housing crisis could be solved by having more room for houses while, how I understand it, it is actually not a problem of available living space but a problem of affordable living space.