I proposed publicly to my wife but a) I knew she wanted to get married, b) I am super reserved usually so doing it publicly was more meaningful because it was more difficult, and I think most crucially c) I didn’t film it for the socials. There’s definitely a genre of public proposal that’s super cringey but it’s not really fair to paint them all with the same brush.
Yeah I’m trans and my wife is a cis lady and neither of our current legal names are our birth name. No one’s used my birth name for at least a decade but when we visit my in-laws I’m the only one who doesn’t call her by hers. Always amuses me when I stop to think about it.