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damn, does it really make that much of a difference? how does it feel now with the machine?

my doctor and i suspect i have sleep apnea. I’ll lose up to like 2 hours of sleep per night from micro-awakenings (so out of 8 hours “slept” ill get only 6 hours of actual sleep), but ive been putting off a proper sleep study for a few months now. ive been starting to wonder how it feels to actually be rested for once

“wow that’s a unique name where’d it come from?” me: “oh haha idrk it doesn’t really have any meaning” reality: it was extracted from a keysmash on discord.

because politics literally affect every aspect of life? i mean i know it can be tiring and it’s really depressing, i know on mastodon you can filter out posts but idk about lemmy/piefed, but politics will always be talked about and trying to avoid it entirely or saying “i dont do politics” is just ignorance

okay so first off, there is a lot more to sex than just genitals, and whether they’re “real” is very subjective. for instance, I’m a trans man and I have “real” male secondary sex characteristics, including facial hair and a deep voice. trans women who start feminizing hrt will develop breasts, which is a female secondary sex characteristic. there’s nothing “fake” about it— the hair on my face is my own hair, made by my body, and my voice is my own voice, just deeper…

i also want to note that you aren’t transphobic for not wanting to date a trans man lol. it’s completely fine to have sexual preferences, but i would say i wouldn’t really go around and call the dicks of trans guys “artificial.” there are many ways trans people go about affirming surgery (and some don’t even get surgery!) and you can’t really “tell” what’s real or whatever by just looking at them. like feminizing bottom surgery looks really really good from what I’ve seen, and i bet you wouldn’t be able to tell it’s “artificial.” but yeah on masculinizing hrt you grow a sort of mini-dick, from your own flesh and blood. nothing artificial about that!

now on to the main question, i would guess that trans people just have a more nuanced understanding of gender. gender and sex are related, but not the same, and by being trans youre inherently breaking society’s established norms of gender which kind of forces you to reevaluate how you view gender. what defines a man or woman is pretty much up to the individual. its a social construct, its inherently subjective, there is no set definition. so yeah, it does feel validating to conform to gender norms as a trans person just bevause that’s what everyone else says and believes, but it’s especially important that we (and everyone, trans or not, for that matter) are able to come to terms with our gender identity and understand what we truly want for ourselves, whether that be hrt or surgery or maybe neither of those.

i dont have a straight answer for you and i wrote this off the top of my head but i hope its somewhat comprehensible and doesn’t come off as hostile in any way 😅

i fucking hate this country and all the brain dead nazis running it i just want to live with my partner and see them more than once a year, immigrants arent fucking aliens theyre people THEYRE JUST PEOPLE

Betelgeuse my beloved <3 <3 i hope i live to see the day you explode