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Cake day: January 2nd, 2026

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  • I have used a Nothic in one of my games for some pretty good effect. My players found a mysterious library filled with strange books which had a Nothic inside. They say something in the shadows with their perception checks and then the Nothic used it’s strange insight on them. The strange check is what got them hooked especially when I made them tell me a character secret. They kept coming back for the weird check and the fact the shadowy figure kept saying cryptic nothings.

    If I was running this I would have the Nothics selling these secrets to your dungeons BBEG. I would give the player some secret disadvantage based on the number of secrets stolen which isn’t relieved until that fight. Scatter them around the dungeon and make them a minion in that fight. I would make my BBEG something related to Vecna so an evil wizard. Allips would fit thematically as well








  • Being intimate with someone is always a vulnerable experience. Sometimes this vulnerability pays off and sometimes it does not. This encouner may have been fine for portions but overall negative. When something like this happens its best to learn from any mistakes (if there was any) and understand that sometimes we take a risk and it doesn’t work out. You may learn that you hate staying over at someone’s place. There is nothing wrong with doing something that isn’t in your character. You don’t know what is in your character unless you try something different.

    You can try to continue to chat with him but that might not work. He might be embarassed that he couldn’t stay hard or could be million different reasons. At some point you will need to cut your losses and stop responding but that depends on you. We are all human and make mistakes and you should treat someone how you want to be treated.

    My one real piece of advice is if you see him again at your professional organization is to act cool, professional and friendly. Its a sign of real maturity and a good life skill to practice being around people who you might feel awkward around. Also you don’t want someone to take something valuable from you (in this case the org). You shouldn’t feel ashamed for what you did because this is something that happens between two consenting adults. You did nothing wrong and should not be ashamed for it


  • This was such a fascinating article to read. Part of me was like “duh girl they are using you” because of the long history of grifters and users in the alt right. But at the same time you can’t be a long-term grifter without being good.

    The madonna / whore complex makes so much sense. They get used to thinking they are special, exceptions and not like the other girls. They are the perfect madonna but cracks forms and they toss them for a new better model.






  • Homeschooling feels like an act of hubris. The idea that you and your partner know the same or more about education than trainer professionals is crazy. Each teacher has at least a college degree, most have a master’s and they all go through yearly refreshers on how to best teach on top of their on the job experience. How can one (or two) people do more than that?

    On top of that your child will be exposed in their home life to things you know and think are important to understand. School can show them things you know you don’t know as well as things you don’t know you don’t know. I want my daughter to know things I don’t know and to expand her worldview beyond mine. Homeschooling limits their knowledge that what I know. (Which is usually the point to shelter a child from scary ideas which is not doing them any favors).

    Can homeschooling be okay? Sometimes but not often enough and most people who do it aren’t prepared or qualified to do it