There’s two things you should consider with this question? How much or how little does your husband contribute to the families well being (job income, taking care of kids, whatever it takes to keep things together) that he should be treated as less than your daughter.
It may not be the way you look at things, but based on his reaction, it’s probably what’s going on inside his head. That everything he does for you and your daughter doesn’t matter.
The other thing you should consider is that as you make him feel disrespected in this way you’re driving a wedge between him and your daughter, because who fault is it that he’s treated like a second rate citizen in his own house? Who is soo important that his sacrifices just don’t matter?
To your credit though, his temper tantrum was not a reasonable way to deal with his emotions.
Looks like if him and Bezos had a kid.