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Cake day: May 18th, 2025

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  • The biggest dog I’ve ever met was a great dane that weighed 80kg (~176lbs). I’m short, but his back was on my waist-height, and his head was a lot bigger than mine. He was completely black too, so quite the startling sight running towards you, genuinely looked like some sort of hell hound lmao. He was very friendly though, we met him at a dog park. The owner also told me they had to order custom harnesses for him, since nothing commercially made was big enough



  • This is why I need internet. Every time a question pops up (like etymology of some word or what is the native range of some bird or other obscure stuff) I can just search for the answer. Sometimes the information doesn’t exist, but even that is an answer, just not the one you wanted. Obviously it can also spiral into finding so much interesting stuff that you forget everything else and do couple hours or pointless research into subject that doesn’t really matter, but that’s not a downside if you look at it from a certain perspective.

    What I really don’t understand is how so many people end up wondering about some facts in a conversation, then everyone goes “huh, that’s a good question” and just drop the subject and talk about something else. It usually takes less than a minute to do a quick search and everyone has a phone these days. So… how? How?!








  • As someone on the spectrum the way I’ve learned to deal with this is basically: A) first reacting empathically (“Oh god that sounds horrible”, “Are you alright?” etc.) B) then bringing up relating things, but trying to always turn the topic back in the end so they can continue about their thing (“Yeah I once hurt my ankle, that wasn’t fun. Your arm must hurt so much”) C) trying to downplay the relating story a bit if possible is usually good, to make sure you’re signaling that you’re not trying to steal the spotlight (“It was hard enough just hopping around for months, I can only imagine how difficult it’s to do stuff with only one arm”) D) if nothing else seems to work, people tend to like being asked questions about them and the thing (“What did the doctor say?”, “How long do you think it’ll take to heal?”)




  • I’ve never understood the argument that you shouldn’t complain about the environment you interact with because other people interact with worse environments.

    I call this the “children of Africa” -argument. Basically, it’s an argument that you can never complain about anything or do anything to better something, because “some kids are starving in Africa”; someone always has it worse. It’s purpose is to belittle and brush aside either the problem worded out or the person saying it (or both).