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  • Schumus@lemmy.worldtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zoneUnlocking bottom dysphoria
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    29 days ago

    I’m sometimes still a little dysphoric about my dick too, especially because I can’t wear some of the cutest clothes I want without having the feeling of presenting it to the whole world and it always being in the way, sticking out, hurting from tucking it away, but I lost interest in getting bottom surgery after realising it’s not a decision between penis and vagina, but a decision between penis and an open wound you have to dilate every single day for the rest of your life so it doesn’t grow shut… So I guess I just learned to deal with it because that thought scares me so much more…

    Some girls just have a penis I guess


  • Ah damn, I’m in southern Bavaria and had luck getting an appointment in half that time. Don’t forget you also need an “Indikationsscheiben” from a psychologist for getting hormone treatment.

    But anyway, hormones are not everything and there are many steps on the way that you can do yourself like learning makeup und amassing a female wardrobe and most importantly finding the courage to open yourself up to the world and just being yourself, something unfortunately you have to do yourself. Find allies, especially female ones because they always sort out clothes from time to time, almost my whole wardrobe is second hand 😄



  • I know exactly how you feel if that makes anything better… The closer to my imagined ideal I get, the bigger even little things seem to feel. Sometimes it’s hard looking at old pictures where you knew how good and feminine you felt when the picture was taken and seeing for example even the slightest shade of beard under the makeup that you didn’t even notice then… If anything that probably means you’re making progress, getting used to your new self and taking it as the new normal, so it becomes the new baseline for your brain, like getting used to sunlight after stepping outside from a dark room instead of a lit one. It’s all relative.




  • Have you even bothered to inform yourself before wanting to criticise being transgender?

    Do you actually know or care trans people don’t choose to be trans? They may choose to transition because life can be absolutely miserable if they don’t but that’s it.

    There is no trans agenda. And to paraphrase, even if it was a choice, some people choose to be assholes like you and society still accepts it. The only agenda we may have is making people understand and accept us being as we are.

    It’s truly sad how narrow your mind is.

    Maybe start with Wikipedia and if you still want to criticise “transgenderism”, take it up with human genetics.



  • It started as a joke (removing the D from my nickname, haha) and it stuck… So I had my new nickname and from there I tried to find a full name that could be abbreviated to my nickname, but I couldn’t find one and told my cousin and my sister and both of them suggested the same name spontaneously and independently and I thought “wow I loved that name when I was young and my favourite character in my favourite show has the same name” and from there my brain kept it… It’s perfect.