I feel like it’s not just them being “annoying” as the incident that made this occur was them going out of their way to be offended at being misgendered as “them”, as if they had the upper moral hand to get angry at force of habit.
As for the “guys” thing, that too is force of habit. Maybe I’d switch to folks, if that didn’t make me sound like my now-dead grandpa.
I want to respond but I recognize I dig myself a deeper hole every time I post. I think at this point the best action is to delete my account. I’m gonna reflect. Goodbye.