Buy the car that checks most of your boxes, Tesla or otherwise. If you’re not gonna get the Tesla because you don’t like musk (I don’t either) or his behavior, and you apply that thought process to everything else you buy you’re gonna end up with very little purchasing options for anything you need to buy going forward.

holy fuck California is expensive. I live in MD and your electricity is more than 5x higher than mine, and gas is almost 2x more.

You should only get an EV after you have your charging situation figured out. Owning an EV is too different of an experience to owning an ICE car and you don’t want to just jump into it without doing your research. Monetarily speaking, you’re not saving much if at all on fueling if you’re going to depend on superchargers alone. Add to that the increased time spent charging and frequency (due to lesser range compared to ICE cars) and you might have a very frustrating time.