Disclaimer: like most pedophiles, I have never approached a child with anything sexual or otherwise inapporpriate, and I don’t plan ever to do so. I recognize the harm in such actions, and I don’t want to hurt the very people I love. If you expect AMA with a child molester, this ain’t it.

The account is a throwaway, hope you’ll understand this decision given the sensitivity of the topic.

Edit: Thank you for keeping civil and genuine in your questions. I did envision hostility, yet here you are, amazing as always. Lemmy is a wonderful place to be, thanks to you all!

Edit 2: Apparently we have another brave pedophile here in the comments, and he came with a good note I should include in the post: if you find yourself attracted to minors, that’s okay. Acting on your desires is dangerous, but having them isn’t. If you’d like to have some support and/or community that would help you get your bearings or just listen without any prejudice (we’re all in the same boat), there are places that can help you. Visit VirPed (18+) or MAP Support Club (13+; scroll down for details), or refer to other resources through the MAP Resources website.

  • DarkNightoftheSoul@mander.xyzEnglish
    945·
    9 months ago

    Why is it so hard to find a therapist- I can look online and find several people advertising lgbtq+ specialist in my area. Couldn’t someone like that help you? Oh, of course. Money.

    edit: It seems I’ve offended the rainbow club by suggesting other sexualities be included in the alphabet soup. So much for “+”

    • Verto@r.nfOPEnglish
      201·
      9 months ago

      The two issues are poorly linked, and experience of other pedophiles and generally minor-attracted people is very often strongly negative.

      Unfortunately, a lot of therapists, even LGBTQ+ friendly ones (no strangers to non-traditional attractions, huh?) are completely unequipped to deal with the issue and can make it much worse.

      • DarkNightoftheSoul@mander.xyzEnglish
        133·
        9 months ago

        That situation sounds extremely challenging. I can just imagine my own frustration if I went to a LGBTQ+ specialist with this only to be told they cant help me, or worse.

        I wish you the best of luck.

        • Verto@r.nfOPEnglish
          15·
          9 months ago

          Thank you! It means a lot.

          That being said, I had one free session with a competent specialist once. Unfortunately, I cannot afford their help, but this one session was already very transformative, as it was the first time I was accepted, face to face, by someone who is not attracted to minors themselves. Got me through a lot of emotions then.

          I hope we’ll have more of it, and I strongly believe a more understanding culture would be beneficial for everyone - including children who’ll be more safe.