just interested in hearing peoples stories for how y’all have chosen your new names! doesn’t have to be particularly profound or interesting really, i just like hearing about others experiences.
i’m actually planning on changing my own soon socially despite being cis, and just really like hearing how others came to find their names, as well as am curious about if anyone had to go through more than one to find what’s right for them. i figured this would be the best community to talk about the topic even if i’m not trans :)
I stole my name from my kindergarten girlfriend lol
Based.
LOL that’s a power move honestly
My parents were supportive, so I wanted to include them since in a way I would be taking away that moment that they named their child. I asked my mom for the list of baby girl names she’d had for me and picked my favourite from them. That way she still had chosen my true name and I also got to choose one that fit me very well.
i really like this :) choosing a name for yourself is a really powerful experience, taking control over the word that is you, but if you’re close to your parents, it’s also really unfortunate that you’re taking that away from them in a sense. i’m close with my mom, and she loooooves the name she chose for me- it has a really special story and meaning behind it to her, so it kind of breaks her heart to know that i don’t love it too.
I heard the name as a kid and I always knew it was my name internally. As a kid, I always daydreamt of a pretty girl in an overcast field with the wind blowing against her hair. I decided her name was Leyla. It wasn’t until I came out that I understood that the girl was me, and had always been me.
awwwww :3 i love that image! coming to the realize that that girl is you is so awesome and special too!
I read it in a bad sci fi book when I was about 14, and it just stuck in my head until I finally came out. Also I like trees and gin.
I looked up “plant names for people”
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I didnt know where to look and didnt have any ideas, so I pulled up the list of most popular girls names from my year of birth. It was number 400 something of 500 lol.
My friend suggested and I liked it :3
:3 i like it too!
its funny, I go by pixel which I didn’t pick with the intent of it becoming my name but when you’re in gaming spaces for long enough your tag kinda becomes your name, as it were? Like I still use my “real” name in my day-to-day but just about everyone just calls me pixel outside of my family or very very long-time friends, and it’s “weird” enough that it kinda reads as an enby name in the first place lol
I like how the name naturally got attached to you over the years.
Haha me too. it’s funny, I decided to switch to this tag on my 15th birthday which is also coincidentally when I got involved in the gaming spaces I spent the most time in, and also when I kinda started really questioning my gender more aggressively, so going by Pixel let me fit in more and also let me sort of avoid the conversation about gender, because it wasn’t a name, but the more time passed the more it was absolutely a name lmao
pixel is so cool! that’s really interesting that it morphed into what you use in everyday life- do you have irl friends in your gaming group? i’m just curious how it’d break out of an online space like that’s
I have a couple, but not a ton tbh. Most of the long-time friends i was talking about are from school and stuff aren’t friends from online and those are separate groups for the most part, but they dont really bat an eye at it when those groups do overlap for whatever reason. But the friends that I’ve met online I do hang out with in real life frequently and they call me pixel in person, not really a huge issue haha
I really wanted a name that starts with the letter ‘M’ because it just felt right. I then looked up “nonbinary/genderneutral names that start with the letter M” I found one with a slight association with my deadname
I stole mine from a videogame way back in highschool, 15 years before I would officially crack.
I played an RPG where the main character just resonated with me greatly. And might have also been the first female lead I’d ever played as. I held into that name as my future daughter’s name, even though I didn’t want kids. So it was an imaginary daughter.
When I came out as trans, I figured that I was that imaginary daughter I had been building in my mind all those years.
i love this
I’m non-binary. My first and last names are fine. First name leans gendered but is technically unisex. I’m in the process of changing my middle name from a generic gendered one to either “Moxie” or “Miles”. This is because
- I don’t want to have to change my initials (smh)
- I feel no affinity towards my middle name
- Miles is best Sonic the Hedgehog character
- Moxie is best soda
- My middle name appears on few documents but my initial appears on many, so fewer things to update.
(Feel free to suggest other less gendered middle names that start with “M” or try to persuade me one way or another)
Michele is a gender-neutral name between Michel, which is masculine, and Michelle, which is feminine.
Funnily enough, my original middle name is Michelle. I’ve spent 30 years not really liking it :)
I was working through a list of nature-related names, looking for an uncommon one that still sounded like a real name. I was almost ready to try out “Ember”, but then I saw “Hazel” and it just clicked. So that’s what I’ve called myself ever since!
Just thought about different names and the one I later chose somehow just felt good
It’s a gender-neutral variation of my birth name. I’m a simple person.
I made a list of names I’ve always liked and found I kept coming back to one in particular, so that had to be it.
i would keep coming back to velociraptor too ngl /j
