@georgetakei@universeodon.com The baby book that my mother used for me, and gave me to use for our children (or, probably, just for a laugh[#]) told us to avoid “wicked women” who tell those sorts of stories.

So for us the NCT was referred to as “the wicked women”.

[#] My mother did warn me that all baby books were useless, in that the baby wasn’t going to behave like the book says they should, on account of the baby hasn’t read the book.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com ✋ Yep.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com We had a home birth, everything seemed to go smooth except for getting in a stupid argument. I’ll never forgive myself for ruining our son’s birth.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com The best is when people tell you those stories when you are currently pregnant. 😬😊

@georgetakei@universeodon.com My wife while telling the story to some friends while holding our son in her arm:
her: “It was really stressful and I could literally feel my body being crushed internally with him taking more and more space…”
Our son start to hug her while falling asleep
her:“… but it was really nothing”.

I can relate the “dad way” to this… Everything feels worth it.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com Humans are a species that individuals don’t handle childbirth well. Assistance from others makes it successful. Many women experience some complicated birthing at one time in their lives.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com I sometimes wonder if my wife really remembers how bad it was (I was there) or if it has been partly blanked out from her memory.

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My wife sure has stories to tell…

@georgetakei@universeodon.com The doctor didn’t arrive until my mother had nearly given birth to me. The nurse actually yelled at her “Hold it in!” When he finally got there, he took off to talk to someone else as soon as I was out, without noticing how much my mother was bleeding. She was losing consciousness while the same nurse had to go look for the doctor to save her life. None of them apologized for any of it.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com This sounds like my mother.

“Oh, all of you were fairly easy! Except for your sister. She had to be vacuumed and clamped.”.

EXCUSE ME WHAT.

@georgetakei@universeodon.com My Aunt, without any kind of distress in her voice, told us all how my cousin “came out sideways”. 😨

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Forgetting is a way to make the pain bearable. Humility should not disguise the work and sacrifice and love, without which many of us would be … like Trump.