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It’s kind of nice when people reveal themselves to be insufferable douchebags at the outset rather than wasting your time.
her persistence indicates he is physically attractive
As my wife will tell you, there are benefits to being married to an insufferable douchebag. Chiefly, you can be pretty confident they won’t play around on you, because no one else will have them.
He has a valid point there. If he doesn’t want to say , you keep talking the same shit and expect a different answer?
Not wanting to answer a question is fine, but doing that by just being pretentious isn’t a good way of going about it. Being forthcoming about not really wanting to talk about your music preferences is fine, changing the subject politely is also fine so you don’t leave the onus of carrying conversation entirely on the other person.
Acting like your music choices are too out there for anyone else to understand is a good way to not have them relate to you in any way.
Right. He could have countered with different topic.
white text on yellow background, that’s infuriating
I had to zoom in on my phone just to be able to read that!
When you’re actually using the app instead of having the compression artifacts of being screenshot several times, it’s not as bad.
I don’t care if you’re watching it in 32k on Odin’s personal account, white on yellow is NEVER acceptable for ANYTHING.
It doesn’t make it less of a crime against good design. Low contrast for reading is bad practice.
It assails the eyes.
I’ve never had such an annoying color combination for a text message.
How do you read light yellow text on darker yellow background?
Once life has given you enough lemons, you become really good at discerning shades of yellow.
It’s kinda the prerequisite to getting into online dating
Sounds like urine trouble to me
Is the text actually yellow or are colors bleeding due to the image compression?
Even if it was white, is kind of a bad contrast for reading.
Agree, still not good design
It would still be better if it was just 2 normal size screenshots though instead of one terrible merged one.
One word at a time
With sunglasses like everyone else. Duh
Yeah someone crosspost this on c/fraccessibility
If someone does not take the least amount of effort to answer a simple question like that one … then he doesn’t care about you in the slightest.
“But its a generic question!”
Two words: common courtesy.
People (guys usually) also answer like this when they are trying to tell you exactly what you want to hear so that you’ll sleep with them. They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance. It’s a very manipulative mindset. He was like a deer in the headlights, not knowing if any answer he gave would be the right answer since he doesn’t know her at all yet. So he stalls, hoping she’ll drop it.
Or he might just be an idiot.
Either way, drop them and move on to somebody who will be real with you.
In other words, playing games, i.e trying to “tick her funne bone” so he gets someone else to play instead of himself. But what most of those guys fail to acknowledge is that “tickling her funne bone” takes time – it’s not a “free pussy pass” of any sort that you “say it”, and she goes “WHOOAAA fuck me mister! Fuck me right NOW!”. That is not “acting tough” or smart, but acting like a douche.
Yeah, that was my thought as well. This is the type of person who is only going to say something of they think it will impress you. The second possibility is that they will share nothing of themselves, period. In either case, they don’t seem like good relationship material.
What he gave was the wrong answer IMO.
They feel like if they give any wrong answer early on, they’ve lost their chance.
To be fair, that’s usually correct. Women have their pick of men, generally. If a guy answers a band she doesn’t like, most likely she’ll move on.
So guys lie and tell her everything she wants to hear. And then once they get their foot in the door, they can start telling the truth.
This guy handled it very badly but I can see why he didn’t want to answer.
Yeah I may not be a relationship expert but if I have to lie for an ice breaker not even a deep question just an ice breaker I don’t think that relation will work
No, people have to like the same music to be in a relationship!!!
Me and my gf have generally have an overlap in music taste (heavy metal/hard rock) but only I like heavy electronic (too “noisy”/overstimulating for bee) and the music I don’t like of hers is more pop music (I like some of it also depends how I feel)
So I’ll go break the news to her that we have to break up due to music taste. It’s a shame cus we have a ton of shared interest but this… aw man can’t believe this is why we gotta split
/s incase it wasn’t painfully obvious
Nah it’s one of those things where some guys just prefer to talk about what they think matters to everyone, their job or financial conditions, music or other personal stuff might just be an extra on their minds
So an idiot.
If someone asks you about your taste in music, then clearly music matters to them.
“It’s something you’ve never heard of”
“How do you know?”
“…because I’m never going to tell you about it”
Maybe it’s just a super closely guarded musical secret he has to keep. The cabal of music keepers does not take blabbermouths lightly
Hammerfall. That is all.
Technically the truth
This is literally out of these incel playbooks. Straight up tater tot bullshit lmao.
This guy is more of a volcel
We should make subcategories it’ll be fun!
He did WHAT??
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The whole conversation is a facepalm. This should have been 3 lines:
“What’s the last song you saved?”
'I am not comfortable sharing that information with you'“Okay, if you’re aren’t willing to let me get to know your basic interests clearly this isn’t the kind of relationship I’m looking for. Good luck and have a nice day” [ends transmission]
That sure would be nice but that pesky ego/personality is a tough one to ignore.
I personally found that a lot of the women I talked to on dating apps acclimate themselves by becoming more jaded, sarcastic etc as a defense.
Can’t blame em haha
If only people were straight forward and detached.
Fantasy: “This relationship is not working out anymore, it is time for a break up/ divorce so we can move on with our long term lives in a more positive way.”
“Yes I agree let us proceed forward in a calm and reasonable manor with no screaming or anger. We shall split assets in a fair and non-childish way.”
“Okay I will be staying in another house/motel until the house is sold, have a good one”
“You too!”
Reality: 5 hours of incoherent scream fighting, crying and baseless threats followed by another 5 hours of passionate makeup sex
latter sounds great, not really where OP is headed lmao
Tate is telling people not to be open about their interests?
Nah, it’s the overall response pattern, tease, deny reject, feed after something really bad happens.
It’s classical abuse techniques
How is the yellow one teasing? I just see a really emotionally unavailable person with no interest in vulnerability. There’s nothing appealing or interesting, so how is it enticing interest? And what does feed mean?
Because someone is showing interest in him on an app that’s designed for finding interested people. He then reciprocates that curiosity and interest in him with “I’m not gonna tell you”
“Come on tell me”
“Haha no”
That’s textbook “teasing behavior”. Feeding is when the abuser flips about face and apologizes and does big grandiose corrections for previous behavior and then the cycle continues. This dude didn’t get that far but that’s pretty sensible considering they were only just talking and that technique is reserved as a way to “reel them back in”
Man, I don’t understand neurotypicals. In whatever world my brain is meant to be in, opaque people are unappealing
I don’t think there’s anything typical about that behavior outside that incel, wannabe player, pick up artist community … Or whatever the fuck they call it these days…
Oh, no, I mean being susceptible to these tactics. To my autism brain, whatever “trick” this incel is using is the equivalent of holding up a huge sign saying “I AM VERY BORING”. I don’t get how this attracts anyone.
Hard cringe
You don’t want to date that guy, let the process work.
So glad I’m not going through this any more. I think I’d rather be single than do online dating again.
But you got to know what kind of person she is, right? The app did its job.
Realistically, the yellow bubbles is a he
Basically why they are single, you must be desperate lmfao
Time to move to the next chat.
It’s was Nickelback
Online dating is one of the most exhausting experiences of my life.
He’s thinking “what does music have to do with me getting sex as quickly s possible?”
If he’s wondering that he’s an idiot
