Let me set the stage: Newly single dad of a young kid. After COVID-19 I haven’t done much outside of my home and taking care of my kid. I work full time-remote, and between the kiddo and leaving room for a hobby or taking care of the house, it seems like the only other thing I have time for is sleep.

The thing I know is that this is likely an issue with my anxiety and anxious attachment. The conclusion we’ve arrived at in therapy is that I gotta meet people. I apparently forgot, or don’t know how to do that. Where to meet people. It’s not a big city, but 200k-300k people in the county.

Maybe I’m looking for something of a strategy more than anything.

edit: thank you guys, I really appreciate it!

  • NotSpez@lemm.ee
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    I think this is the best advice. These kinds of social gatherings take the pressure off socializing, you’re there because of something else and socializing is a side-effect. That feels nice for all parties. Choose something that is close to a honby or interest of tours, that way you’ll be more likely to meet likeminded people. Good luck OP and remember, you’ve got years to do this, you dont build up a social life in one or two weeks.

    Edited to add sports, they’re great in melting the ice. Board game nights if that’s your cup of tea. Fantasy sports leagues

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      So much this. You can make a new friend at any age or stage in life. My grandparents are in their 90s and they made friends with a couple who just moved into their village only a few weeks ago and now they’re going to the local cinema together once a week followed by an early dinner!

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      (Language) courses are also great for this. If you make friends, that’s a bonus. Whatever happens you’ll have learnt a skill.