Image of a screenshot of Twitter of a screenshot of Facebook.

The Facebook screenshot reads:

Fun fact about me: When I’m having a conversation with you, I will periodically bring up personal experiences from my own life, interspersed withing your own stories that you’re telling me. I’m not doing this to try and make the conversation about me, or to take away from your own experience. Actually, what I’m attempting to do, is to try and show you that I do, in fact, understand what you’re trying to tell me, and that I am giving your story my full attention.

It can really be off-putting to some people, so if I’ve ever done this to you during a conversation, I just wanted to make sure you know that I wasn’t trying to take over your story, I was just doing my best to connect with you in the moment.

The screenshot of Twitter reads:

This. I am fully aware that I do this. And I feel so guilty every time, but this. Understand this.

  • ZzyzxRoad@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    152·
    11 months ago

    interspersed withing your own stories that you’re telling me.

    This is what I don’t get. The neurotypical person is the one telling personal stories, but then we’re the bad people when we…tell personal stories.

    I just see the same behaviors in everyone all the time and wonder what exactly is making the difference between neurotypical and neurodiverse. Besides an undue stigma from neurotypicals against people who don’t fit absolutely perfectly into social norms for whatever arbitrary reasons.

    • Flickerby@lemm.eeEnglish
      10·
      11 months ago

      This is a non autistic neurotypical thing to do too. If you get someone who is bitching at you saying an occasional 5 second aside showing that you relate to what they’re saying, they’re just an asshole, and they’re in the wrong.

      I mean if you’re doing every other sentence, then yeah, that’s a bit much. But now and then is expected and someone who wants a half hour of center stage quiet from the audience should find a stage and a brick wall

    • BOMBS@lemmy.worldOPMEnglish
      2·
      11 months ago

      This is what I don’t get.

      I think reading this book can help you understand a lot of the neurotypical world.

      Ultimately, what I found is that I know I’m doing my best, mean well, and care about others. If certain people don’t see that or even attack me instead, I just excuse them from my life. It’s not my job to control what other’s think of me. It’s my job to control what I think of me, behave in a way that fits my values, and place myself in settings that make me happy.