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The original was posted on /r/aitah by /u/katsaghost on 2023-10-06 23:15:00.

So recently I started a new job as a server. Sometimes we get so busy I dont have time to pee and hold it, then as adhd kicks in I forget I have/had to go. This has resulted in a UTI, I didnt have time to go to the doctor and was treating it with OTC medication to relieve the pain. However this resulted in a hopsital visit just last night and turns out I have kidney stones and a kidney infection. I havent been feeling too great all day as the medicine the hopsital have me for pain has worn off. I was napping with my boyfriend and he was watching the final episode of Asoka. He turns over and starts pressing into me and asking to do spicy things. I told him no and he turned over and started giving me the silent treatment. I didnt want to deal with it so went in my room to keep napping. Him on snapchat: “I’m kinda turned off by the idea of having to talk my girlfriend into doing sexual stuff. And then getting rejected. Real fun stuff, not ego bruising or emotionally destabilizing at all 👌🏼”

“I’m dissapointed, You don’t have to say anything, Just wanted to let you know how I feel”

Anytime I dont do whatever he wants when he wants he gets passive aggressive. I told him I didnt feel that great but if he wanted I was willing to come do something spicy if he wanted. He rejected that saying it felt like I was doing it out of pity, which is a turn off. Fair enough. I love him but nothing is ever his fault and I feel like a constant problem because all he does is get mad at me for something I did or didnt do.

AITA for telling him no?