• Noughmad@programming.dev
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      1 year ago

      This really depends on the bully.

      Some want attention - they want your reaction, often your overreaction so they can make themselves look like a victim. In these cases, ignoring them for a while will probably make them move on to the next target.

      Some want power - they want you to look weak so they can look strong. They like the feeling that you can’t do anything to them. Ignoring these will make them continue. Here you have to fight back.

      And yes, usually you don’t know what your bully wants.

      • PickTheStick@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        Which, sadly, these days is a one-way ticket to you being in the alternative school. With your bully. If the bully, who is probably a football or basketball player, even makes it to the principal’s office instead of being given the royal treatment for having a student oh so randomly attack him!

          • 0x4E4F@lemmy.rollenspiel.monster
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            Yeah, we used to fight all the time as kids, like really kick each other’s asses, bruses, blood. No one ever called anyone, the teachers just started dragging us by the ears to the bathroom to clean us up, that was it. Mom or dad asks what happened, I got into a fight, that was it.

            Maybe things weren’t taken as seriously cuz I don’t live in the US. Things were a lot different back then. Now, they’re more or less like in the US, everyone just wants to take legal action… which IMO just adds further trauma to the situation. It doesn’t actually solve anything. They’re kids, they fight, they make up, that’s the cycle.

            Maybe it’s also because we never had guns in schools. Even now, there hasn’t been a single incident regarding fire arms in schools.

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          1 year ago

          Still, he won’t fuck with you any more. Hurt him and he’ll leave you alone. That’s s basic principle with all animals in nature. If you put up a fight, you’re left alone.

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      My experience was, stuff the bully in his locker and he’ll never bother you or your friends again.

      To be fair, he was starting football linesman and, uh, was trying to stuff a friend in his locker… with his coach’s apparent permission…