Not all autistics function well with order.
They function well when the baseline world around them maintains predictability.
But contrary to others on the spectrum, they do really badly with rigid schedules and rules to follow.
I am one of those.
When busses don’t ride on time, I’m anxious, even if I don’t take the bus.
But for the love of God don’t force me into any sort of schedule because it’ll run me of the rails.
If things are orderly then they’re predictable.
My brother/sister/sibling!
I thank every day that I have a boss that doesn’t give a shit about that stuff, as long as the customers are happy. Schedules are the bane of my existence
I LOVE other things on a schedule, me on a schedule is a day ruining mental drain that gets me all spun out.
I love how at the time if me answering there are exactly two replies one telling OP that their statement about ADHD is inaccurate and one telling OP that their statement about autism is inaccurate.
Canned psychologist answer to any absolute statement about ADHD or ASD: “it depends” and “sometimes but not always”.
No.
The problem is that the more obvious autists are those who everyone bases their knowledge on while the less obvious ones, that are like me do not in any way have the same needs.
This stereotype is what makes life shit for people like me. Because people make assumptions about them that are directly opposed to what their actual needs are.
And I’d say that most autistics that function on a level where they can live on their own, get married and work are more like me than the classic view of autism.
As the classic view of autism is expressly based on the easily detectable cases that can’t even take care of themselves.
We gotta tell people that Fred Jones from Mystery Incorporated is autistic. He’s the perfect representation.
Almost like they’re diagnoses of exclusion in more than a few cases…
I would do the same tbh
It kinda balances out enough that I went 36 years without knowing or suspecting anything was truly wrong with me. 🤷🏻♂️
Cries in AuDHD and working in the food industry
Having both, idk, it’s like I have to expect chaos to be okay with it. Like, I take my ADHD spouse on a date and I expect they’ll want to spontaneously go places, and I’ll be okay with that. If I’m driving home on a routine grocery run and they suddenly call and want takeout… I have to calm myself.
At the very least, rolling with it or especially having someone roll with what you have to throw at them/the world has to be somewhat rewarding.
Imagine functioning… lol
It’s a pipe dream isn’t it? SOMEDAY…
One day brother
One day
My one day already past 😞
I function some of the time.
Oh hey I’m in this one!
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“chaos is order yet undeciphered”