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That’s because work is for doing things, and home is for not doing things.
I learned that to stretch my ability to work at home I have to stay in gross work clothes that I can’t put on the couch or bed.
Once I shower, no more effort, no more worky.
also keep some shoes on while working
thank you for putting it into words
It’s cuz doors are evil
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-walking-through-doorway-makes-you-forget/
Forgetting is still better than bumping right into the door.
Every. Fucking. Day.
I think people find adhd (or any other mental thing, from autism to depression) hard to understand because they see this and think “oh, it happens to me too!” (Once, five years ago, during an objectively identifiable bad spell) So they think that whatever worked for them should also work for everyone else.
“Being gay is a choice because I ignored my urges and fell in love with someone of the opposite sex, so everyone can do it” – someone not realising they’re bisexual
The “I’m gonna get my life together so I don’t have to work this shitty job” to “I’m exhausted, I’ll do it tomorrow” pipeline does seem like a pretty commonplace experience, including NT folks, even if the adhd experience of executive dysfunction is different and the strategies that NT people employ to break the cycle don’t work for them. I think this just isn’t a great example because it manifests in a way that sounds familiar to most everyone.
For me it has nothing to do with exhaustion. Motivation, desire, and even the ability to think on how to go about tasks just vanishes. Regardless of my physical energy levels.
I woke up a bit early this morning five hours ago and have accomplished zero things that need to be done today.
Average Saturday.
I know, I fucking love Saturdays too
I know the feeling.
Even just on work stuff, it’s like “Wow I could really be kicking ass on my tasks if I wasn’t in a constant state of bouncing between messages and emails and meetings.”
In my younger days, I would just survive the 9-5 and then get stuff done from like 6-10. So working a 60-hour week, getting 20-hours worth done, and getting paid for 40. Pretty terrible.
I don’t really have a solution though. I just stopped doing the 6-10 part, and am in a constant state of fear that I’m noticeably under-performing. Also terrible. Would not recommend either.
I especially like when those around you expect you to be productive every waking hour and then criticise you for not being that way.
By the time you get home you have nothing left.
It’s because you’re exhausting your mind and body at work and the background monkey brain chatter that ADHD gifted us with. A typical brain just says “I’ll do those later” and gets the work done and then goes home to fix their life. ADHD peeps like me, can’t let go of the “do it later” and just reserve it for later, due to impaired executive function.
I’m 45 and prescribed a rather high amount of amphetamines which help me just say “I’ll do that later” and I can count on myself to actually do it later.
high amount of amphetamines
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I keep finding myself at a point where it makes me say “I’ll do it now” and I start hyperfocusing on the wrong thing for a few hours, or just kinda get tired, go blank, and take a nap.
But sometimes I feel great so 🤷 I’m not even on a high dose right now
Dude this is a curse that I dont wish this on anyone. It’s like the mental equivalent of someone wishing you stubbed your toe every morning, or wishing all your shirts have those annoying tags in the collar that can’t be removed. It’s just torture.
“ADHD is when work leaves you feeling exhausted”.
:-/
“I feel accomplished.”
brand new sentence there
ADHD is when your brain is healthier than average, and your social circles are holding you back. Run far away.
ADHD preventing conventration and proper work/reward dopamine functionality “brain healthier than average”
Okay.
