Hi, just writing this post as a sort of vent but also to ask since this is a first for me.
Since the start of my transition I quickly noticed that I can’t easily wear womens tops. Since they can fit tighter and sometimes be thinner, there’s sometimes a couple destracting problems on my chest. I’ve started HRT now and even my mens fit tops are a problem since my nipples are even more prominent, and I’ve basically just been wearing sweaters or hoodies to hide them. Currently I’m wearing a coat, and in general wearing two layers all the time is uncomfortable and complicates my outfit choices. This would be easier if I’m boymoding, but that’s kind of difficult for me given I’ve thrown away that possibility, and generally look queer no matter what I do.
Anyway, I thought it would be a bit too early to start buying bras (there’s still basically nothing there), but clearly I have to do something. I’ll ask my Mum but I think I may as well ask here too, what should I do? and if the answer is to buy one what should I be looking for? (I literally have no idea what I’m doing)
Oh yeah, they’ll get real stiff when your breasts are developing; I’ve had the same issue. Like others have said here, sports bras do help to just smooth everything out so they’re not poking through. TomboyX is a popular brand (I’m not a huge fan of their quality, but it’s tough to find trans-friendly underwear elsewhere), and you don’t have to buy sports bras from them, but they do sell bralettes that allow you to wear a bra without needing to have fully developed breasts. Some of their bras even have pad slots if you’d like to have breasts while you’re out of the house, or want that support as they come in.
enfemme and untag are good alternatives to tomboyx
(especially untag, their tucking panties are the best i’ve found)