I felt the same way at first. Turns out that i was so disconnected from my appearance and numb to that fact that I interpreted my indifference as being okay with it. I didnt understand that what I was feeling was dysphoria until after I accepted that I was trans.

If you think youre “okay” with being a guy, ask yourself a few questions:

  1. Is it a “positive” okay, meaning you actively like being a guy? Or is it “neutral” or “negative” okay, meaning you just dont actively hate it and are being carried forward by inertia?
  2. If you could press a button and instantly beca woman in all aspects with the caveat that you cant go back, would you press it?
  • LwL@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    Broadly it’s just “wants to change gender from the one assigned at birth” vs “does not”.

    Gender is ultimately just made up and the entire definition hinges on that, so idk if there’s a straightup answer. I’d say if you want others to perceive you as male, you’re probably cis. If you don’t care then maybe you are too, generally with these labels whatever you think you are you are.

    Fwiw I’m (closeted) transfem and one of the things I’m happy about is that at least I don’t have to deal with periods lol, I feel like actively wanting one would be an obvious sign of being transfem (and i guess also a strong sign of being cis fem if someone afab really likes having a period?) though because otherwise it just seems really annoying to deal with.