The study surmised that autonomy, personal values, and the desire for freedom are some of the strongest predictors of a satisfying single life.
My take as a dad… prior to kids and marriage I had time to pursue hobbies and interests outside of work. Now, as the revenue generating cog the family machine, my time is extremely limited. Combine that with the fact that over the last 100 years the cost of living has risen faster than the average wage. This means the money maker in the family system barely has time for family interaction, not to mention personal time.
Under those conditions, to enjoy being a dad means you have to put your children’s happiness above your own all the time. If a person prioritizes “autonomy, personal values, and the desire for freedom” it’s going to be a bad fit.
I think this is what my own narcissist father meant when he told his three children “you weren’t worth it.”
As for the impending demographic problem… "Life, uh, finds a way.”
Everything is so quiet these days.
Is anybody else in this category?
