So I was like talking with a femboy friend and hugging and I made a joke about two femboys and he gave me a rebuttal that I don’t count as a femboy anymore because I have boobs now. A bit less dysphoria, but more sad that I can’t celebrate Femboy Friday the way I used to (dressing up as a femboy). GAHT was the right move for me though because my boobs are replacing chest dysphoria, they’re not replacing a cute stereotypical femboy chest body type.
if trans masc people can be femboys (they can and do) then so can you. no one gets to tell you what your gender identity is but you, least of all based on secondary sex characteristics. maybe your friend is lowkey a little jealous of your budding boobies, but that doesn’t really excuse trying to gatekeep. you could be a decade into hormones, post ffs and srs, passing better than most cis women and still be a femboy if thats what feels right to you.