• Powderhorn@beehaw.org
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    4
    arrow-down
    1
    ·
    14 days ago

    Whether I’m in any position of power is irrelevant in a small Lemmy instance. What I’m saying is your behaviour is consistently misaligned with our ethos. As I said, just learn from this, and all is well.

    Our only rule is to Bee Nice. Once you get to know people here, you can of course be a sarcastic prick, but it’s the same rules as real life … you can’t just talk to a stranger as though they were your best mate.

    This really isn’t a high bar.

      • Powderhorn@beehaw.org
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        4
        ·
        14 days ago

        You’re really not painting a good picture here. I’ve upped my suggestion in the mod channel from 72 hours to a week, vacationwise.

        I don’t like to pull rank, but if this is how you talk to a mod, it’s unlikely you’re doing any better elsewhere. Not a huge deal in public communities, but there’s the black box of DMs.

        I think I was pretty gentle on escalation. You were not.

          • ranandtoldthat@beehaw.org
            link
            fedilink
            English
            arrow-up
            3
            ·
            14 days ago

            I’m not a mod and you’re really being unfriendly to multiple users right here, right now. Be nicer, even (especially?) when you disagree.

            • womjunru@lemmy.cafe
              link
              fedilink
              English
              arrow-up
              1
              ·
              13 days ago

              I’d rather someone be rude to me than passive-aggressive. That’s way more uncivil.

              • ranandtoldthat@beehaw.org
                link
                fedilink
                English
                arrow-up
                2
                ·
                13 days ago

                If that’s your personal preference, that’s fine. Just recognize that not everyone is OK with people being rude (or unfriendly, etc) to them.

                Beehaw is structured around that understanding (among others).

                  • ranandtoldthat@beehaw.org
                    link
                    fedilink
                    English
                    arrow-up
                    3
                    ·
                    13 days ago

                    Beehaw is nice on that they don’t tolerate faux-civility in any form. If you see a spate of of passive aggression, report it.

                    It can be a bit easier to spot active aggression in rudeness, etc, but that doesn’t imply passive aggression is somehow “nice”.