Sucks. Idk. There’s things I need to prioritize, and need to stop distracting myself with my fucking phone.

Most of the day is fine, but after it gets later in the evening, there isn’t much on nostr, here, reddit or the other places I use and it makes me feel sad. Bc I have no one to talk to.

And then it forces me to realize that I’m avoiding my responsibilities. Idk how to fix that. My fucking cell phone isn’t going any where but I’m -stuck- in it

It’s my distraction, entertainment and social life. Everything outside of my phone is what I’m drowning out on purpose bc I don’t want to deal with it.

Then it’s night time, and I have nothing to show for myself after being on my fucking phone all day.

Just another day that I didn’t take care of anything.

Idk I’m sorry. I know you guys can’t be there all time, yall have lives and stuff I understand that. I need to figure out a way to chill out or something.

I just don’t get how I went from having my shit together and then now being at a point where I don’t leave the house.

I’m isolating myself on purpose.

EDIT: Thank you all so much for taking the time to read this. You all have me valuable advice and it really means alot. Yall are awesome and you made me feel better. Thank you

  • LarrySwinger@exploding-heads.com
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    1 year ago

    Hello Alice. I see two related but distinct things going on here: low mental health and lack of productivity. The former is a matter of building and maintaining good habits. It helps to spend time offline, for example by going on a stroll every morning. As for productivity, you are more likely to follow through on your plans if you write down your goals with pen and paper. There are systems that help you with this. I recommend the Bullet Journal method. You can also practice your ability to concentrate by reading a book or meditating. I recommend you do all of these three things (stroll, planning, reading) at the start of your day.

    It’s very human to long for social interaction, and ideally you have it every day, but social media is designed to keep you addicted by making your brain release dopamine upon each interaction. Here’s a video about it. Maybe keep it to just a few chatroom where you check in with people. I’m thinking about starting an accountability group. Are you interested?

  • Scruffy_Nerfherder@exploding-heads.comMEnglish
    3·
    1 year ago

    Well, you’ve inspired a lot of people to stop and try and reach out to you. You need real people in your life.

    Trust me, I know that families can suck, but they are the first place we go when we are in trouble. Where is your family?

  • i-liek-french-toast@exploding-heads.comEnglish
    3·
    1 year ago

    yeah, totally get this. replace ‘phone’ with ‘computer’ and ‘sad’ with ‘bored’ and you could be talking about me too.

    some advice i got secondhand from a fren’s therapist was to try to do at least one thing different from your normal routine everyday just to break established patterns. drive a different route, exercise, clean something you don’t have to, try something new for dinner, reach out to a buddy or relative you haven’t talked to in a bit, whatever. friend had been going thru depression when he got the advice but i tihnk its good regardless. i just need to kick myself in the ass and actually follow it lol

    i listened to one of the jordan peterson audiobooks last year and it had some similar stuff in there. i think one of the examples was if you had let your paperwork pile up and were overwhelmed by the task, then start off with 1 or 2, just do some small piece and force yourself to come back to it and keep doing small pieces. probably can be adapted to a lot of stuff but my brain is shutting down for the day and can’t really think

    another friend swears by getting a dog. i’ve thought about doing that too. if you actually take them out to dog parks, exercise, etc could even add to social aspect. i like big dogs but am horribly lazy. especially since i’d probably want a retired police dog or something similar

    • logen@exploding-heads.com
      4·
      1 year ago

      “Try to do something different” This is strong advice, however, I’d change to it “Go do something”

      Doesn’t matter what it is, doesn’t have to be new, you just need to do.

      Have a thought? Go do it instead of convincing yourself not to do it.

      Super simple, yet still hard to do when… well… life is what it is.

    • Alice@exploding-heads.comOPMEnglish
      2·
      1 year ago

      Thank you man, it means alot. I have two cats. I’ve had dogs before and you are right about that. Having them forces you to get up out of bed bc you have to take care of them.

      I see how it helps. Even though I don’t have to walk my cats, even though they have food and water, they’ll cry for me to get out of bed when I’m sleeping all day.

      They knudge me and won’t shut up lol until I get up and at least open the curtains and turn the TV on.

    • i-liek-french-toast@exploding-heads.comEnglish
      2·
      1 year ago

      can fuck up your spine on any of them. i see people mess up their neck especially on phone/tablet, laptop, and desktop

      wish i had known what ‘ergonomics’ was before i spent my career on a computer messing mine up

      but yeah, i like bigger screens too 😉

      • logen@exploding-heads.com
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        1 year ago

        nreal (xreal now, I guess) airs and friends. Tis the way to go. Doesn’t matter where I look. Tech is still young, but it’s basically what I’ve wanted since I looked in a sky mall magazine all those years ago and saw TV’s in this ugly head band goggle thing. Actually, I think they looked slightly like Apples atrocious headgear.

  • squashkin@exploding-heads.comMEnglish
    2·
    1 year ago

    yeah I was sick this week and felt like I wanted to prioritize more other things over forums

    I learn a lot from forums and have good convos so idk about cutting them out totally, cold turkey

    but I have also lived without internet and I am wondering about more of life like that