• Default_Defect@midwest.social
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    1 year ago

    I can’t bring myself to try online dating, my friend that hit the jackpot and ended up marrying the first girl he went on a date with through whatever app he used tells me it works, as if his experience is absolute, but I hear about too many people getting ghosted by shallow dates to want to try. My self esteem couldn’t take it.

    • space_comrade [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      1 year ago

      Oh yeah that happens a lot, especially if you’re a dude. You just kinda have to learn to not take it personally, it’s just the nature of those platforms unfortunately, they want you to use the app for as long as possible.

      Dating apps shouldn’t be for-profit businesses IMO, it just fucks everything up.

      • Tankiedesantski [he/him]@hexbear.net
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        1 year ago

        Yeah, it sucks that you really have to treat dating as a numbers game (as in if I meet enough people, I’ll eventually meet someone who likes me) and suppress the part of yourself that wants to get invested in each person you date.

        I ended up together with my SO who I met online, but I wouldn’t wish the process leading up to meeting her on anyone.

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      1 year ago

      This is anecdotal of course, but probably a good 60% or more of my friends and younger family members have met their long-term partners “on Tinder.” I started dating my wife just weeks before the app launched in our area, but as far as I’ve seen it’s a valid way to find yourself a spouse if that’s what you’re into

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      1 year ago

      It helps if you have thick skin. It is definitely tough if you don’t deal with rejection well. Though I will say that it can help you develop some of those traits.

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      1 year ago

      If you’re a male seeking female you are in a crowd of 10-20 males per female on any given app or website. Good luck.