• teft@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Sounds more like social anxiety than introversion.

    Introverts aren’t socially anxious they just recharge their energy by being alone as opposed to extroverts who recharge by being around people.

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      That’s correct. I’m an extrovert with social anxiety. I think I just want to be alone, but then I’m miserable. Ideally, I’d just do everything I need to do with one or two friends.

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      Depends on how wrong it is. I’m unable to digest pork and will say something if there’s bacon on my food. I don’t like sun dried tomatoes and will happily pick them off.

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      As with most things, the more you practice the easier it gets, so I reckon that it takes longer for introverts to grow their social skils, and specifically in the case of awkward social situations, becoming confident that they can deal with it - the anxiety is really just a lack of confidence in one’s skills IMHO.

      As somebody who in personality tests always tended to score as very introvert, it’s quite interesting how the me now in my 50s in social situations is quite a different person from the me back in even my 30s, and I think that what makes the biggest difference by far is general self-confidence which in turn translates into caring far, far less about what most other people think of me (especially strangers), which then reduces the awkwardness of most social situations.

      Specifically in this case, two decades ago I would tend to react as per that meme, whilst nowadays I just casually send it back pointing out it’s wrong (politelly but firmly), though for example in a restaurant I might actually point out that it’s wrong and if it turns out I would have to wait for the correct order still take it if I’m low on time and what I got was something I could just as easilly have ordered since my original choice was mentally pretty much a “pick one because you have to pick one” rather than a firm choice - in other words, I deal with it as I would deal with a junior developer implementing a wrong requirement in a project I was leading: point out the error to avoid a repeat and then find the most effective way to deal with the consequences.

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    Being an introvert does not mean being socially inept, it just means that you prefer certain types of stimulations. You can be introverted and socially capable at the same time.

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    I’m not an introvert, I just got yelled at a lot as a child instead of being hugged and now I have anxiety.

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    True story, I used to do this with a slider order I requested at the gas station every day. When they got it wrong, that was just adding some variety, which was good to me.

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    This has nothing to do with beeing an introvert. If you don’t have the courage to return a meal or even talk to someone that is paid to listen to you, get yourself together and see a therapist

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    Let’s see how many “definitions” of supposed “introverts” or “extroverts” we get this time. It’s pop-psychology BS, people. Nothing more.

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      Do you think all people are exactly the same level of social or just dislike that it’s considered a binary?

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        I dislike that a) it’s considered binary, while the vast majority of people will not be even close to either extreme b) people put themselves into those extremes anyway, throw around the wildest (and mostly useless) definitions of what “being an introvert” is supposed to mean, more often than not dripping with victim mentality c) people use their supposed status akin to a neurodiversity d) people openly blaming others for not being allowed to be like they are because others dare to be like they are (“I have it so hard in life because I’m an introvert in a world full of extroverts”) e) people define large chunks of themselves around some label they largely defined themselves and want this label to be respected as if it was a real thing, an illness almost. f) people define large chunks of themselves around some label that is just meant to very loosely describe some aspect of a human being’s character, not the whole human